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Post by gdgross on Jul 22, 2008 17:57:25 GMT -5
It's your ex's and your wedding anniversary, but you don't even remember until the next day. (happened to me yesterday. woo hoo!)
Add to the list!
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Post by redskyatnight on Jul 22, 2008 18:06:00 GMT -5
I have to think for a second at what my last name used to be.
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Post by pennylane on Jul 22, 2008 18:24:52 GMT -5
Good for you GD. I have to agree. The day my ex left was so horrible I thought I'd relive that day every year on it's anniversary. This past yr. my coworkers reminded me....when I said "oh yeah," They both said "good for you, you forgot what day it was"
And yes it's total progress. More and more as each year passes.
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Post by jules on Jul 22, 2008 19:52:56 GMT -5
How long does it take...? Congrats to those of you who have achieved these various milestones.
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Post by super on Jul 23, 2008 12:15:28 GMT -5
you dream that you and your ex are back together, and it's a nightmare! wow, i was relieved when i woke up.
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Post by redskyatnight on Jul 27, 2008 20:45:54 GMT -5
lol super
I heard a song that used to make me boo hoo like a kid thinking Christmas was cancelled. Now, I can't even remember what is was about that song that made me sad.
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Post by crushy on Jul 27, 2008 21:59:06 GMT -5
Good for you, gd. I know the first time that happened, I knew I'd made progress. I remember when I first found OJar, I just couldn't relate to those that said, 'time will heal', etc. I thought they could not have been as invested in their marriages or the like. Now, I'm saying the same things and as cliche as everything sounds, it's true...I guess that's why they rank as cliches. Yeah Ojar and Hugthat alumni!! We share a bond many others cannot understand...and frankly, the fewer of us, the better.
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Post by shattered on Jul 29, 2008 13:36:59 GMT -5
I remember, last year and earlier this year, when I was in the depths of my pain and misery -- I would read posts by so many people on ojar and ojaroo who were so much further down the road in their healing process than I was.
Almost every single person was complaining about the endless "roller coaster." Man was I envious!! That meant these people were having ups and downs, good days and bad! I would have given anything to have an up! To have one good hour!! I was four months into it, and still hadn't had a SINGLE HALFWAY DECENT DAY. All I wanted was to finally get ON the darn roller coaster!
I also used to envy people who would talk about feeling much better in general, but still feeling sad. "Sad" -- as opposed to gut-wrenching, soul-turning, searing, crippling pain -- seemed like heaven to me.
I envied people who came on the board and felt good enough to tell jokes, swap recipes, argue politics, and talk about stuff other than their heart being ripped to shreds.
I wanted nothing more than to be one of those people, and that state seemed utterly unobtainable to me.
And now -- I'm one of those people!!
I'm on the roller coaster! I have good days and bad! I come on the board and am interested in reading and responding to all sorts of stuff, not just the heartache stuff. I am sad!! (Whoo hoo!!) I can now (I hope) help cheer others up because I'm not always down.
That's how I know I've made progress.
Which -- I hope all of you realize -- was, and is, supported by you.
(Yes, Frecks, you too.)
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Post by shattered on Jul 29, 2008 14:40:57 GMT -5
How long does it take...? Congrats to those of you who have achieved these various milestones. jules -- you've had other milestones! You, too, have made tremendous progress. That doesn't mean there isn't still a long road ahead, of course. But look at the long stinky part of the road that we -- inlcuding you -- have already left behind us!
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Post by rocko on Jul 30, 2008 8:30:15 GMT -5
Yep, I remember each mark that you all are talking about.
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