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Post by glassonion on Aug 13, 2008 21:39:07 GMT -5
Since my divorce a couple of years ago, I have completely stepped outside of my comfort zone and it has been a life altering experience for me. Some of the things that I have done are ( and they may not seem huge but to me they are ): just this past weekend I drove my daughter and her friend into NYC to Madison Square Garden to see The Jonas Brothers. We live about 20 mins outside of Manhattan but I have never driven in to the city alone, let alone with two children. I did it! We had a great time and it is something I would do again. I have taken my kids to the beach by myself and even let them swim in the ocean....being that I am a weak swimmer, for me this was HUGE. I drove myself, alone, to the beach for a day to read and relax in the sun. Took my kids on vacation. Started dating again. Went camping. Swam in the Delaware River, went fishing, made love to someone new, started exercising and love it!
Perhaps these little accomplishments aren't HUGE, but for me, they really are. A couple of years ago, I would not have considered doing a single one of these things. It's funny how life can change at the drop of a dime, mine did and I am so proud of myself to know that instead of crawling into a hole and hiding from the world, I am really taking charge of my life and it feels GREAT to feel alive again.
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Post by blu on Aug 14, 2008 1:07:15 GMT -5
Yea for you! It feels good sometimes to be able to look back and list the little things that have made a difference and that we have been able to accomplish out of the ashes of a breakup.
I do the same thing at times and think its great for the soul!
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Post by redskyatnight on Aug 14, 2008 5:59:56 GMT -5
That's awesome. Living can be fun!
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Post by shattered on Aug 14, 2008 9:19:21 GMT -5
Fantastic accomplishments -- congrats!
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Post by Kim Possible on Aug 14, 2008 9:55:12 GMT -5
OMG!!! You saw the Jo Bros? How lucky are you!!!! They are just adorable (I saw them In NJ in March). You know, it really is amazing, the things you find yourself doing. Sometimes I get down and think that my daughter is not getting that same 'family' life that I got as a kid, with both mom and dad. but what we are giving our kids is different, very unique. I was petrified to do thigs alone at first. Not that I couldn't handle it (she is 8), but that it seemed weird. The first thing I ever did like that was take her to see Beauty and the Beast on Broadway. It felt weird to me, I sat there and stared at all the 'families'. Parking was an hassle, and I didn't have cash to buy her a souvenir (and they didn't take Debit cards). I was almost in tears, thinking "yeah, I can't do this". This was the first summer her father and I were apt, 3 yrs ago. Last year the 2 of us went to Hershey Park for a weekend. Just the 2 of us, and we had a great time. One of the things I have been doing is a lot of activities with another divorced mom. Our kids go to school together, and we have become good friends. We have special nights, we'll cook at my house or her house. A couple of nights, we have had breakfast for dinner. We also went away for a weekend.
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Post by sheyd on Aug 14, 2008 10:49:37 GMT -5
It is so good to hear that you are not only managing well on your own, but ENJOYING it! That is such great news!
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Post by glassonion on Aug 16, 2008 20:51:12 GMT -5
Again today I stepped out of my "zone" and completely enjoyed myself. Today was one of the most perfect days weather-wise so, out of the blue, I packed up my two kids, their skateboards and scooters and headed out to a really cool stake board park in Hoboken, NJ that overlooks the Manhattan skyline. THEY LOVED IT. We had never been there before and I can guarantee that we will be going back there.
As the afternoon progressed, my daughter was getting bored so I suggested that we take a train into NYC - next thing I know, the three of us are on the PATH train heading into NYC. We walked around The Village, ate lunch at Jekyll and Hyde and then headed back to NJ.
It is days like that that I can't help buy wonder why it has taken me so long to get into the swing of living again after my divorce. Whatever the reason is, I am glad to be back!!!! And so are my kids!
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Post by Mel (cherry) on Aug 17, 2008 8:14:14 GMT -5
Those random impulsive moments are the ones that stay shining in your memory for many years!! That sounds like you had a wicked cool time. Im psyched to hear this. ;D
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Post by goods on Aug 18, 2008 10:16:35 GMT -5
Nice Glass, keep it up.. no more coasting!
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Post by jules on Aug 18, 2008 10:35:39 GMT -5
Wonderful news, glassonion. Life is for the living. And making the most of it. As a good friend of mine pointed out recently, life is too short to waste in stagnancy.
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Post by redskyatnight on Aug 18, 2008 10:39:46 GMT -5
Wonderful news, glassonion. Life is for the living. And making the most of it. As a good friend of mine pointed out recently, life is too short to waste in stagnancy. I'm also learning that life is too short to spend it complaining about everyting.
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Post by pennylane on Aug 19, 2008 23:14:03 GMT -5
Glass, you're doing well. No actually, you're doing Great!! Keep up the good work. You're stepping out of boundries that you've not done before and it's making you feel great. It's called independence. Go For It!! It's good for you and it's good for your kiddo.
You're making a great start of it!
Keep it up. I admire that in a person!
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Post by nolongeryours on Sept 19, 2008 13:02:29 GMT -5
It is great to see people come out of their comfort zone. I think is a sure sign of healing and progress.
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