Post by crushy on Aug 19, 2008 22:34:23 GMT -5
In the words of my 13 yr old son, 'empathy sucks'. It can be such a blessing and a curse. I'm sorry he got that from me.
As most of you know, I've been divorced 5 yrs after him leaving me for a friend. I've had sole custody all 5 yrs, but he filed a lame custody suit 2 1/2 yrs ago since I make more and he needs the $.
They had a baby in March, lost their home, etc, etc and I have saved my home, kept sole custody of my sons, re-secured my job after a serious accident, had another near death accident, recovered from that, still care for the boys and he's still being a prick and trying to take them so I have to pay them child support!! My boys are freaking 16 and 13!! They tower over me and he wants to fight for custody? They are starting their own lives. I'm just imagining forcing a 17 yr old to go to his daddy's by 5:30 or I'll get some motion through the court. It's ridiculous!
I suffer daily pain from my accidents that he admittedly left me over (so much for 'in sickness and in health') and he wants me to pay him?! I put the pathetic puss through most of his schooling to have it used against me? My revenge is I make significantly more than him and have not one single school debt. Who's the dumb one?
I'm sorry, but if my life hung in the balance of this pencil-dick, I'd take the death penalty. My attorneys are laughing at him, he's had his a$$ handed to him in court each time and he's still fighting manning up and paying his debt?
The saddest part is our sons. They are old enough to play tough, but I'm still their mom and am privy to the times they admit this is stupid and they resent their dad (although they love him - which I encourage).
I have given him every chance to settle this without trial for the sake of our sons, but the prick has now tried to subpoena my financial records from 5/06 to present when the freaking divorce was finalized in March of 2004!! What a lame-ass! Oh, and what's wrong with her? How many women wouldn't say, 'Look, whether you still love your ex-wife or hate her, she is still in our triangle - we now have a baby and we've lost our home...it's time to man up to what we did and MOVE ON!!!!!!!'?!
Obviously, she's not very bright. He's not either. Since he left I thought he was a Forensics Investigator, but he's a freaking 'Crime Scene Tech'. No wonder he wants more money.
Okay, so I nearly die (again), I'm working full-time, taking care of our sons, will have life-long health problems and the dick wants to paint me out to be someone that is abusing a whopping $550 per month for 2 sons?! WTH?! That covers 1/4 of one house pmt!! Do the math!!
In our state, child support is calculated on a formula using both parent's income. He accidentally e-mailed me something he meant for his attorney which tells me he's trying to reduce his child support....my attorney said I have nothing to worry about. I had a dead-beat dad and now my kids have one?
His own mom is disgusted with him and will be meeting with the Guardian ad Lit em assigned to our case. She will have an ear full for them in support of me since he's obviously either a chronic asshole or just dumb as dirt and married someone that believed it.
The saddest part of all this is what my sons have gone through for 5 yrs. This just isn't fair to them. My ex thinks they are fine, but I have them in counseling so they have someone neutral to talk to.
I even offered him joint custody in our last mediation and he didn't take it because it wasn't enough days to make $ from the deal. If that doesn't speak to his motives, I don't know what does. I still have sole custody. They tell me they can be honest with me, but tell him what he wants to hear because they don't want the 'lectures'.
My ex is so predictable, it's actually funny. I have the law on my side, I have my attorneys on my side, I have my mom and his mom on my side and he has his over-priced idiot attorney on his side that put a lien on his house to ensure she got paid?!
I tell you, I could lose everything and you know what? I have more than he does because I have the respect of my sons and the love of a man that hasn't boinked at least 2 other married people just because he's trailer-trash?!
He knows he can have my sons anytime he wants them if he will just send it in e-mail so there is no 'he said, she said'. How can he convince anyone (but his dumb wife) that he has to spend all this time, money and energy to get joint custody when he can have them whenever he wants?
I've kept a spreadsheet of every single time he's requested them overnight, they've requested overnights or I've offered overnights. I've recorded every yes, no, no response. I have an e-mail from him to me to back up every single one and I'm here to tell ya, the Judge is going to have no problem seeing what is really going on here.
As most of you know, I've been divorced 5 yrs after him leaving me for a friend. I've had sole custody all 5 yrs, but he filed a lame custody suit 2 1/2 yrs ago since I make more and he needs the $.
They had a baby in March, lost their home, etc, etc and I have saved my home, kept sole custody of my sons, re-secured my job after a serious accident, had another near death accident, recovered from that, still care for the boys and he's still being a prick and trying to take them so I have to pay them child support!! My boys are freaking 16 and 13!! They tower over me and he wants to fight for custody? They are starting their own lives. I'm just imagining forcing a 17 yr old to go to his daddy's by 5:30 or I'll get some motion through the court. It's ridiculous!
I suffer daily pain from my accidents that he admittedly left me over (so much for 'in sickness and in health') and he wants me to pay him?! I put the pathetic puss through most of his schooling to have it used against me? My revenge is I make significantly more than him and have not one single school debt. Who's the dumb one?
I'm sorry, but if my life hung in the balance of this pencil-dick, I'd take the death penalty. My attorneys are laughing at him, he's had his a$$ handed to him in court each time and he's still fighting manning up and paying his debt?
The saddest part is our sons. They are old enough to play tough, but I'm still their mom and am privy to the times they admit this is stupid and they resent their dad (although they love him - which I encourage).
I have given him every chance to settle this without trial for the sake of our sons, but the prick has now tried to subpoena my financial records from 5/06 to present when the freaking divorce was finalized in March of 2004!! What a lame-ass! Oh, and what's wrong with her? How many women wouldn't say, 'Look, whether you still love your ex-wife or hate her, she is still in our triangle - we now have a baby and we've lost our home...it's time to man up to what we did and MOVE ON!!!!!!!'?!
Obviously, she's not very bright. He's not either. Since he left I thought he was a Forensics Investigator, but he's a freaking 'Crime Scene Tech'. No wonder he wants more money.
Okay, so I nearly die (again), I'm working full-time, taking care of our sons, will have life-long health problems and the dick wants to paint me out to be someone that is abusing a whopping $550 per month for 2 sons?! WTH?! That covers 1/4 of one house pmt!! Do the math!!
In our state, child support is calculated on a formula using both parent's income. He accidentally e-mailed me something he meant for his attorney which tells me he's trying to reduce his child support....my attorney said I have nothing to worry about. I had a dead-beat dad and now my kids have one?
His own mom is disgusted with him and will be meeting with the Guardian ad Lit em assigned to our case. She will have an ear full for them in support of me since he's obviously either a chronic asshole or just dumb as dirt and married someone that believed it.
The saddest part of all this is what my sons have gone through for 5 yrs. This just isn't fair to them. My ex thinks they are fine, but I have them in counseling so they have someone neutral to talk to.
I even offered him joint custody in our last mediation and he didn't take it because it wasn't enough days to make $ from the deal. If that doesn't speak to his motives, I don't know what does. I still have sole custody. They tell me they can be honest with me, but tell him what he wants to hear because they don't want the 'lectures'.
My ex is so predictable, it's actually funny. I have the law on my side, I have my attorneys on my side, I have my mom and his mom on my side and he has his over-priced idiot attorney on his side that put a lien on his house to ensure she got paid?!
I tell you, I could lose everything and you know what? I have more than he does because I have the respect of my sons and the love of a man that hasn't boinked at least 2 other married people just because he's trailer-trash?!
He knows he can have my sons anytime he wants them if he will just send it in e-mail so there is no 'he said, she said'. How can he convince anyone (but his dumb wife) that he has to spend all this time, money and energy to get joint custody when he can have them whenever he wants?
I've kept a spreadsheet of every single time he's requested them overnight, they've requested overnights or I've offered overnights. I've recorded every yes, no, no response. I have an e-mail from him to me to back up every single one and I'm here to tell ya, the Judge is going to have no problem seeing what is really going on here.