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Post by crushy on Aug 31, 2008 12:48:54 GMT -5
Trailer-trash (his 2nd wife) has posed as me and called my banks, my dentist's office, my hair/nail tech, gone into my Pediatrician's office wired and literally had the conversation w/ the nurse transcribed and submitted in court, gone into my bank and even called freaking Dominoes to suggest ordering a cheese pizza for my youngest makes me a bad mom. There is more, but I've only listed those on the top of my head right now. The discovery process expired last year and yet his lame attorney tried to subpoena my banking records?! Thankfully, my attorney filed a Motion to Quash. I'm so sick of this, but if he thinks I'm going to give up, he has another thing coming. ...and thank you for the two spaces before the next sentence - now if you'd pull your head out regarding our sons.  WTH happened to the fictional 'sponsor' trailer-trash told me about when they first filed the lame custody suit? I honestly thought she'd be smarter than this, but nooooooo. No wonder we weren't happy, I'd tell him to pull his head out of his ass and yet she enables him. How pathetic?! His own mother has supported me in court. Thankfully, she's a mom that goes w/ what's right, not w/ what's blood. His only blood that backs him is his half brother that has drawn his opinion based on what is fed to him. Since he has our sons this weekend, I could vent forever w/ crap he's done, but what's the use? He's obsessive, pathetic and down right sick. Until now, I've given him slack for the sake of our sons, but no more. It's far more destructive to my sons to allow such illegal and disgusting behavior to continue. I have no doubt my sons will be better dads and husbands since they've had such a pathetic example. Don't get me wrong, I know they love their dad and I fully support that. I love my dad too, but do I respect him for being a dead-beat and putting himself before us? No. Life is too short... |
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Post by freckles on Aug 31, 2008 15:11:14 GMT -5
I think it is aganst the law for Her to call People saying she is you
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Post by crushy on Aug 31, 2008 15:34:42 GMT -5
I think it is aganst the law for Her to call People saying she is you You're absolutely right, Freck. However, for them to realize this means they are rational, which they are obviously NOT. I can't wait for trial. There was a time I thought I could shelter my sons from the BS, but now so much of it is public record....and for what? Money!! Troy, I'm sorry I didn't die in March, much to your disappointment. As much as I resent you, I'd never wish the boys would experience your death, let alone put it in writing. DUMBASS...  |
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Post by redskyatnight on Sept 2, 2008 6:19:22 GMT -5
That guy just doesn't give up. What a freaking freak! It stinks that he is continuing to invade your life and has an accomplice. They are both living in some other reality. I don't have any advice. I just wanted to say I'm sorry for all you have to go through.
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Post by jules on Sept 2, 2008 9:10:50 GMT -5
What a couple of psychos. It sounds like they enable each other. I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this kind of sickness in your life. I hope you can continue to be fueled with the knowledge of knowing that what you are doing comes from a right and good place, and that unlike them, you have integrity which is something that no one can take away from you.
I sincerely hope that the truth shines through to only illuminate how despicable they are.
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Post by shattered on Sept 2, 2008 18:04:53 GMT -5
Oh Crushy, this sounds horrible.
I am so sorry.
I can only wish you strength to keep going.
(((Hugs)))
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Post by jojostar on Sept 8, 2008 10:41:33 GMT -5
believe me he who laughs last is sooo true it is hard been down this road myself you will laugh and you will preveil......stay strong youre stronger than u think keep going and keep your head up they want you to fail don't give it them...It is horrible It will get better...
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Post by crushy on Nov 11, 2008 23:09:32 GMT -5
Thanks to all of you for your replies and support. We are finally scheduled for trial at the end of February (after 5 yrs divorced and over 2 1/2 yrs filed for joint custody). February can't come soon enough. I was over him long ago, but still have to deal with him regarding our sons and current legal issues, etc because of the court case he filed almost 3 yrs ago. The hardest part is what this has done to my two sons and for what? Money?!  I'm going into court already having decided, whatever is ordered, I can take care of them and myself. I had a dead-beat dad and the message I got was that he was more important than I was. I don't want my sons to feel that, but I also can't force him to be present in their lives more than every other weekend and for 3 hrs every Thurs night. The ironic thing is, his trying to discredit me keeps biting him in the butt while he was already screwed. I just pray he will accept the court's decision in February. I mean, my oldest is going on 17!!!!!!! I want them to love their dad and I know they do, but I can't believe I'm actually posting Troy is a 'no show dad'!! He was so good w/ them when they were little, but then again, he's taken and made a new family. The dumb idiot actually admitted in writing last week my sons are not his priority, but his new family is (of course, not those exact words, but pretty much). I can take care of them, we have a good support system, but I don't want my sons to feel 2nd like I did. |
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Post by crushy on Nov 15, 2008 7:09:56 GMT -5
The bastard won this one... What is the psycho going to find??? Yep, my banking records show I finally settled on my accident and then turned right around and loaned friends thousands to help 'bail them out'. Tell me, is that a sin??? Maybe I trust too much, but I don't keep track of who has paid me what. So, I get to be on the stand and truly mean it when I say, 'I don't recall'. Whatever.... Troy, I know you're reading this...Freaking quit thinking of yourself and think of C and P for once!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You can pretend all you want, but the facts are facts. "The Lord is aware of the strength of your feelings towared your husband, Troy, and assures you that if you remain true and faithful, you will be a strength and a help to him to overcome the problems in his life and together you will be able to resolve them and proceed on in time." Hey, Amazon Enforcer... Most anyone that reads this is going to wonder, 'What?' I know you get it and if you had the kahunas you (and N) pretend to have, you'd want to settle before trial. Don't think I've forgotten facing you in court 15 yrs ago and then you had the guts to have your attorney ask my attorney (yep, I retained him again) offer more than I was asking, you rode the elevator with me, walked me to my car and had the kahunas to ask me to lunch? Whatever!! I will squash you and you know it. I know you're not happy...not many are convinced, but hey, N is happy and that's all that matters. You gave me 2 beautiful sons, incredible in-laws and a great job that I retained because I knew I'd have to fall back on it. Tell me...How are things working for ya?  You CAN'T be happy and still be so invested in my life. One knows it's extreme when neighbors that never knew you, ask about you driving by. Freaking MOVE ON, Troy. I will face off with you in court. Too bad you didn't go to court last time and hear the tone in the Judge's voice. I don't think you're making friends. You think you're 'all that' because Nick's parents called you? Okay, dumbass, whose house did he show up at? Yep, that's right, MINE. He knew I'd be here and I was safe. Keep kidding yourself about your role in our sons' lives. It sickens me I gave them such a lame excuse for a dad. Hell, P is going to have surgery...are you going to fight paying for that too? They've been warned you are known for going into medical/dental offices wired to try to weasel out of your share. I love our sons and refuse to neglect them for your convenience. I don't care if their care is my responsibility...at least I can look at myself in the mirror. |
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Post by Mod (PQ-Kermie) on Nov 15, 2008 23:03:55 GMT -5
Its time to calm your mind girl.. you are letting to much of everything get to you and in a way it is overwhelming you. There are but so many battlefields that you can shed blood upon and so many alters that you can lay your tears. The time has come for you to put away the anger.. put away the frustration. There comes no peace in dealing with that which we don't understand and have no control over. Let him dig his own grave.. he is already halfway there. Your words seem to stem from an anger about just not the kids but from a time long since gone. let that time pass.. for years I struggled with the right of doing things for my kids and the darkness of trying to reclaim what once was. I have now been at peace for several years knowing that I could never retain the memories of those happier times without the demons of the past several years taking over. The battle with the children is one that always draws people back to the battle field... but the blood that is spilled does not have to be your soul.
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Post by crushy on Nov 16, 2008 0:06:44 GMT -5
:-/You're right. I am angry and bitter. I have been in a 5 yr long nightmare I can't wake from. Yep, it's more than about the boys. Imagine knowing your ex has heard and recorded you having sex with someone else? I'm seeing someone (now probably going to be subpoenaed). I hate feeling like this. Life is just too short to spend it fighting. I have to ask (genuinely), how do I put all of this behind me when I receive daily calls where I have to defend myself? I haven't been able to walk away because I'm going to court in February. My banking records, etc are on display for scrutiny and I get to pay someone to do it? I'm seriously open to suggestions. I want nothing more than peace. I will sincerely listen to and heed advice. I know you're coming from a good place, PQ. I'm just so tired.   |
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Post by loshyra on Nov 16, 2008 0:26:54 GMT -5
T...
I have been searching all day to help you....for the words that will make it better..... BUT I think all you need is the following...
The Test
BY Janice Kapp Perry
Tell me friend, why are you blind?
Why doesn’t he who works the miracles send light into your eyes?
Tell me friend, if you understand, why doesn’t He with power to raise
the dead just make you whole again?
It would be so easy for Him.
I watch you and in sorrow and question why.
And you my friend in perfect faith reply.
Didn’t He say, He sent us to be tested?
Didn’t He say, the way would not be sure?
But didn’t he say we could live with him forever more,
well and whole, if we but patiently endure.
After the trial, we will be blessed,
but this life is the test.
Tell me friend, I see your pain.
Why when you pray in faith for healing,
does the crippling thorn remain?
Help me see, if you understand, why doesn’t he who healed
the lame man come with healing in his wings.
It would be so easy for Him.
I watch you and in sorrow question why?
And you my friend, in perfect faith reply.
Didn’t He say, He sent us to be tested?
Didn’t He say, the way would not be sure?
But didn’t he say we could live with him forever more,
well and whole, if we but patiently endure.
After the trial, we will be blessed,
but this life is the test.
Tell me now, why must you die?
Why must your loved ones stand with empty arms,
and ask the question why?
Help me know, so I can go on.
How when your love and faith sustained me, can the precious gift be gone?
From the depths of sorrow I cry, though pains of grief within my soul arrive.
The whisperings of the Spirit still my cry.
Didn’t He say, He sent us to be tested?
Didn’t He say, the way would not be sure?
But didn’t he say we could live with him forever more,
well and whole, if we but patiently endure.
After the trial, we will be blessed,
but this life is the test.
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Post by redskyatnight on Nov 17, 2008 14:15:54 GMT -5
Imagine knowing your ex has heard and recorded you having sex with someone else? Too bad you didn't know you were being recorded. You could have really played it up.  I have to ask (genuinely), how do I put all of this behind me when I receive daily calls where I have to defend myself? Stop defending yourself. That is what court is for. Daily phone calls from your ex? Tell him to keep conversations to only the kids and the rest will be discussed in court. If its a phone call from your attorney - he should only be interested in the facts too. Hang in there. You are so much stronger than you were a year ago. |
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Post by crushy on Nov 28, 2008 22:48:25 GMT -5
Its time to calm your mind girl.. you are letting to much of everything get to you and in a way it is overwhelming you. There are but so many battlefields that you can shed blood upon and so many alters that you can lay your tears. The time has come for you to put away the anger.. put away the frustration. There comes no peace in dealing with that which we don't understand and have no control over. Let him dig his own grave.. he is already halfway there. Your words seem to stem from an anger about just not the kids but from a time long since gone. let that time pass.. for years I struggled with the right of doing things for my kids and the darkness of trying to reclaim what once was. I have now been at peace for several years knowing that I could never retain the memories of those happier times without the demons of the past several years taking over. The battle with the children is one that always draws people back to the battle field... but the blood that is spilled does not have to be your soul. Thanks PQ, redsky and Losh...It's so easy to lose perspective when you're in the center of it. I appreciate your advice and opinions. I think I was particularly offended at first when someone suggested I was bitter...why? Probably because I was bitter and didn't like being called on it. I have NO control over him and his actions...only my own. Honestly, I have two incredible teen sons that are awesome (not perfect, but pretty awesome), a great job, a respectable home w/ equity, good friends, a great job, an incredible relationship w/ my fiance and the list goes on. I'm blessed and I know it. I just need to learn to focus on the positives when the negatives want to drag me down by my ankles. Thanks, friends... |
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Post by flyaway on Dec 1, 2008 5:25:21 GMT -5
Crushy, hun, I'm so sorry you've not been able to move away from emotional ground zero. It stinks. It really truly does. I want you to know that I understand EXACTLY what you're going through right now. I am now experiencing a similar situation. If you ever want to talk about living life in the shadow of a gargantuan score card, let me know. I'll PM a number if you want. You're good people. A good mother, and those boys are great boys because of the influence of their awesome mother!! I truly hope February brings a reprieve. Flyaway |
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