Post by doseyclwn on Sept 1, 2008 16:27:44 GMT -5
I see the writing on the wall for my current relationship. My gf (whom I haven't seen (or talked to until just a few minutes ago) since Thursday because she's been hanging out with this guy friend of hers all weekend (whom she had an affair with when she was married). She just got a 2nd job which she will be working on the weekends which means even less time for us. I understand the job part. She also got into school and has been doing really well in (most) every area of her life. Those of you that know me and have talked with me about her know how big of a deal this is. I really am happy she's doing well. There are a few things that bother me, though. I could use some feedback on whether or not I'm being a little bitch (please tell me if I am)
1)She lied about calling me Saturday. She said she called and called, but got no answer. She did not, as I got no calls on either my land line or my cell phone that morning.
2)She makes very little effort to see me or spend time around me. She can give an entire weekend to this friend of hers, but it's hard to get her to give me a few hours. I know she's busy now, and I respect that, but to my way of thinking, if I'm in a relationship and it's important for me to see the other person, I'm going to make an effort to so so. She makes practically none.
3)Most of the time, I feel like I'm annoying her.
So there you have it. I'm not the perfect boyfriend, and I don't have a lot of $, but I'm not a bad guy, and I spend a lot of time trying to make sure she feels appreciated and loved. If I truly am nothing more than an annoyance to her, I want her to dump me. I don't want that at all, but I'd rather she dump me than to put up with me if I'm not making her happy. I asked her point blank on the phone if she wanted to still be my girlfriend. She said yes, but was wishy washy, and said that it wasn't the time to have this conversation (which I acknowledge it probably wasn't). In any case, I'm really hurting over this right now, and I don't know what to do. As a single parent, everything (including relationship hassles) are more difficult, and i feel sort of lost right now. Any comments are appreciated. If you think I'm being a little bitch, please tell me
1)She lied about calling me Saturday. She said she called and called, but got no answer. She did not, as I got no calls on either my land line or my cell phone that morning.
2)She makes very little effort to see me or spend time around me. She can give an entire weekend to this friend of hers, but it's hard to get her to give me a few hours. I know she's busy now, and I respect that, but to my way of thinking, if I'm in a relationship and it's important for me to see the other person, I'm going to make an effort to so so. She makes practically none.
3)Most of the time, I feel like I'm annoying her.
So there you have it. I'm not the perfect boyfriend, and I don't have a lot of $, but I'm not a bad guy, and I spend a lot of time trying to make sure she feels appreciated and loved. If I truly am nothing more than an annoyance to her, I want her to dump me. I don't want that at all, but I'd rather she dump me than to put up with me if I'm not making her happy. I asked her point blank on the phone if she wanted to still be my girlfriend. She said yes, but was wishy washy, and said that it wasn't the time to have this conversation (which I acknowledge it probably wasn't). In any case, I'm really hurting over this right now, and I don't know what to do. As a single parent, everything (including relationship hassles) are more difficult, and i feel sort of lost right now. Any comments are appreciated. If you think I'm being a little bitch, please tell me