Post by wizer on Oct 3, 2008 12:47:57 GMT -5
Hi folks..
Some of you know me and my story that goes back to the Ojar days..my divorce officially started on May 10, 2006 when I was forcefully evicted from my home by 2 sheriff's deputies with a TOP.
After attempts to reconcile, and marital counseling...she eventually filed for divorce in 10/2006, I moved out (voluntarily) a month later, started dating...she fell apart, retracted the divorce, begged me to come back (in a letter that I have introduced as evidence to counter some of the nasty things she has said about me)...but at that point I was already dating (yeah way too soon) and I had had enough...I filed in 3/07, the divorce is still ongoing and will probably go to trial which is scheduled for 3/2009...because she has no interest in settling and she has very unreasonable expectations about what she has coming to her..
Anyway, I am in the final chapters of this whole thing...I moved to a new condo about 3 weeks ago...my emotional state is quite good, I have recovered from the shock of the changes in life that go with divorce after 18 years of being together...estrangement from my children, and huge financial hits..
At one point I thought I would never make it through this in one piece, I was sure I would be financially devastated, the emotional strain of rebuilding my life at the age of 46 was overwhelming..but you know what? I did it...and it feels...really, really good. I have been seeing a woman for 15 months now, she's my 3rd relationship of any substance since I moved out, and that's going very well.
The ex however, is in the midst of crisis..the marital residence has been up for sale, there is an offer on the table, the inspection is today...it will probably sell..and she will be in a situation where she has 2 teenage children that literally walk all over her..she will need to arrange moving to a new house...and at some point, hopefully sooner rather than later (if I am credited for temporary support payments for the past 2 years), a good part of the thousands I am paying per month is going to run out..she's a nurse, but has refused to go back to work for 2 years..
She did a bunch of dating a year or so ago, at first she said to me that she "found guys including doctors and lawyers that treated her with respect that she never got from me"...but that apparently dried up, and she told me at a later date that all those guys were after one thing...what a surprise...now apparently she is seeing someone but it hasn't turned into much as of yet...
I did my pain and suffering..I think she was cushioned to some extent because she was in the same house, not having to worry about working, in full contact with our 2 children...and even with the trauma of divorce...the other stuff was not something she had to deal with as I had to...
Now..it's her turn.
Some of you know me and my story that goes back to the Ojar days..my divorce officially started on May 10, 2006 when I was forcefully evicted from my home by 2 sheriff's deputies with a TOP.
After attempts to reconcile, and marital counseling...she eventually filed for divorce in 10/2006, I moved out (voluntarily) a month later, started dating...she fell apart, retracted the divorce, begged me to come back (in a letter that I have introduced as evidence to counter some of the nasty things she has said about me)...but at that point I was already dating (yeah way too soon) and I had had enough...I filed in 3/07, the divorce is still ongoing and will probably go to trial which is scheduled for 3/2009...because she has no interest in settling and she has very unreasonable expectations about what she has coming to her..
Anyway, I am in the final chapters of this whole thing...I moved to a new condo about 3 weeks ago...my emotional state is quite good, I have recovered from the shock of the changes in life that go with divorce after 18 years of being together...estrangement from my children, and huge financial hits..
At one point I thought I would never make it through this in one piece, I was sure I would be financially devastated, the emotional strain of rebuilding my life at the age of 46 was overwhelming..but you know what? I did it...and it feels...really, really good. I have been seeing a woman for 15 months now, she's my 3rd relationship of any substance since I moved out, and that's going very well.
The ex however, is in the midst of crisis..the marital residence has been up for sale, there is an offer on the table, the inspection is today...it will probably sell..and she will be in a situation where she has 2 teenage children that literally walk all over her..she will need to arrange moving to a new house...and at some point, hopefully sooner rather than later (if I am credited for temporary support payments for the past 2 years), a good part of the thousands I am paying per month is going to run out..she's a nurse, but has refused to go back to work for 2 years..
She did a bunch of dating a year or so ago, at first she said to me that she "found guys including doctors and lawyers that treated her with respect that she never got from me"...but that apparently dried up, and she told me at a later date that all those guys were after one thing...what a surprise...now apparently she is seeing someone but it hasn't turned into much as of yet...
I did my pain and suffering..I think she was cushioned to some extent because she was in the same house, not having to worry about working, in full contact with our 2 children...and even with the trauma of divorce...the other stuff was not something she had to deal with as I had to...
Now..it's her turn.
