Post by ionysis on Nov 2, 2008 1:39:57 GMT -5
Hi guys,
Just thought I'd drop a line to post an update on things as I've been lurking about a bit lately.
I am still seeing the Royal Navy guy that I met in July. His deployment in the Gulf is finished now and he is on 5 weeks leave. I flew back to Europe early in October and we spent a wonderful week in France and a few days in England together. We met each others family and he has been staying with me in Abu Dhabi for a month. Everything is going very well, he treats me like a princess and tells me how beautiful I am and how much he loves me every day.
We have had a couple of fights over the weeks partly because he can be rather insecure because of his past (2 ex-girlfriends and an ex-wife who all cheated on him) and partly because he suffers from OCD which can sometimes be a challenge. However I can understand the baggage given my history and we have communicated well to work these things out. I love him very much and feel extremely lucky to have him in my life. I trust him completely and I really believe he is a man of complete integrity which is vital for me now. Also my family likes him which is important as they hated the ex and our relationship made them very miserable.
Sadly he will be leaving in a week to return to his ship and I will only be seeing him for one weekend until he returns in December for another 4 weeks. I am looking forward to spending Christmas together though. I know that having a relationship with a sailor will be a challenge as he will have to be away from me a lot of the time - but I think it will be worth it. He has another 5 years to serve until he retires and until that time we will have to just make the most of the time we see each other. We write emails and speak every day on the phone when he is working which helps keep us close. I do worry about him when he is on deployment - much of the time he is boarding other vessels looking for drugs, pirates or people being trafficked and it is a dangerous job. But I have so much respect and admiration for him for doing it.
My own work is going from bad to worse. The financial markets are horrendous and I've had 2 deals pulled which has basically scuppered my chances of a bonus this year but I don't care that much. My priorities aren't really focused on money right now, if I have enough to pay the mortgage and travel to meet my boyfriend when his ships docks then that is sufficient.
I haven't seen the ex since I cut off contact with him and I don't miss him one bit. I hear through our mutual cleaner that he is dating a nice English girl right now but he is still paying the Chechen (ex?)-prostitute and having her stay with him and sleep in his bed (which must be nice for his new girlfriend...) I actually rather like hearing these snippets now because it makes me SO incredibly relieved that I am totally out of the train wreck that is his life. I never cease to thank God for the lucky escape I had from being married to this man. I do however have a new cleaner starting in the middle of this month because I want to have a total break from anything to do with him if possible.
I have been trying to contact him recently though because he owes me $20k which I was idiot enough to invest with him in a property after he asked me to get back with him at the beginning of this year. I've emailed and texted him to send me the money but having promised repeatedly to transfer it to me he has now stopped returning my calls and emails. I'm not sure whether he has spent it on prostitutes or gambled it away on the forex markets but I doubt I'll be seeing the cash any time soon. I'll keep badgering him about it however because I know that me asking for the money will make him feel like crap as he detests the thought of being obligated or in debt in any way. Vindictive? Moi? OK, maybe its mean but I can't help thinking he deserves it.
So that's it pretty much. Some good, some bad but the most important things are all OK - family, friends and love life are making me very happy now despite my dissatisfaction with work and financial irritations.
I hope everyone is keeping well and I've been sorry to read about some of your ongoing difficulties. Thinking of everyone.
Ion
Just thought I'd drop a line to post an update on things as I've been lurking about a bit lately.
I am still seeing the Royal Navy guy that I met in July. His deployment in the Gulf is finished now and he is on 5 weeks leave. I flew back to Europe early in October and we spent a wonderful week in France and a few days in England together. We met each others family and he has been staying with me in Abu Dhabi for a month. Everything is going very well, he treats me like a princess and tells me how beautiful I am and how much he loves me every day.
We have had a couple of fights over the weeks partly because he can be rather insecure because of his past (2 ex-girlfriends and an ex-wife who all cheated on him) and partly because he suffers from OCD which can sometimes be a challenge. However I can understand the baggage given my history and we have communicated well to work these things out. I love him very much and feel extremely lucky to have him in my life. I trust him completely and I really believe he is a man of complete integrity which is vital for me now. Also my family likes him which is important as they hated the ex and our relationship made them very miserable.
Sadly he will be leaving in a week to return to his ship and I will only be seeing him for one weekend until he returns in December for another 4 weeks. I am looking forward to spending Christmas together though. I know that having a relationship with a sailor will be a challenge as he will have to be away from me a lot of the time - but I think it will be worth it. He has another 5 years to serve until he retires and until that time we will have to just make the most of the time we see each other. We write emails and speak every day on the phone when he is working which helps keep us close. I do worry about him when he is on deployment - much of the time he is boarding other vessels looking for drugs, pirates or people being trafficked and it is a dangerous job. But I have so much respect and admiration for him for doing it.
My own work is going from bad to worse. The financial markets are horrendous and I've had 2 deals pulled which has basically scuppered my chances of a bonus this year but I don't care that much. My priorities aren't really focused on money right now, if I have enough to pay the mortgage and travel to meet my boyfriend when his ships docks then that is sufficient.
I haven't seen the ex since I cut off contact with him and I don't miss him one bit. I hear through our mutual cleaner that he is dating a nice English girl right now but he is still paying the Chechen (ex?)-prostitute and having her stay with him and sleep in his bed (which must be nice for his new girlfriend...) I actually rather like hearing these snippets now because it makes me SO incredibly relieved that I am totally out of the train wreck that is his life. I never cease to thank God for the lucky escape I had from being married to this man. I do however have a new cleaner starting in the middle of this month because I want to have a total break from anything to do with him if possible.
I have been trying to contact him recently though because he owes me $20k which I was idiot enough to invest with him in a property after he asked me to get back with him at the beginning of this year. I've emailed and texted him to send me the money but having promised repeatedly to transfer it to me he has now stopped returning my calls and emails. I'm not sure whether he has spent it on prostitutes or gambled it away on the forex markets but I doubt I'll be seeing the cash any time soon. I'll keep badgering him about it however because I know that me asking for the money will make him feel like crap as he detests the thought of being obligated or in debt in any way. Vindictive? Moi? OK, maybe its mean but I can't help thinking he deserves it.
So that's it pretty much. Some good, some bad but the most important things are all OK - family, friends and love life are making me very happy now despite my dissatisfaction with work and financial irritations.
I hope everyone is keeping well and I've been sorry to read about some of your ongoing difficulties. Thinking of everyone.
Ion
