So you think you can parent???

[flyaway]

Think again, biatch! You think you're my daughter's best friend/big sister/fave auntie.....and you know what? You might be now, but the criticism she has to listen to from you in regards to me will come back to haunt you. It's already damaging A. She's discontent, unhappy, confused and moody. Thank you. With all your talk of "the best interest of the girls" you sure do know how to screw with their heads. We've had an arrangement that has worked very well for the past 5 years. Why mess with things now? You guys didn't win your bid for custody, so now you're going to start plan B and attempt to alienate them from me? Classy. Oh wait. Classy is your middle name, right? After all, you broke an engagement, hooked up with a married man, got knocked up and NOW resents that he's paying Child support for his first family? Life sucks, princess. Grab a straw.

ARRRRRRRGHHHHHHH!!!

[crushy]

I am so sorry you are going through this, fly. I can completely relate to how irritating and infuriating this type of situation can be.

Your biatch's middle name is 'Classy'...my biatch's middle name is 'Trailer Trash' . She's claimed my sons hate me and want to live with them, yadda yadda . Funny, they never ask for my sons above standard visitation and my sons don't ask to be there more than they have to. She's just trying to get a reaction out of me. Maybe she (and my pathetic ex) believe it but kids are much smarter than we realize.

Kind of a silly analogy, but it's kind of like eating a Snickers bar. She may feel like she's got the Snickers, but all she has is the immediate satisfaction of your daughter right now. That is going to be fleeting as your daughter is an adolescent.

You are about gratification (teaching, training, supporting your daughter and your relationship) where she is about immediate satisfaction (your daughter being an adolescent leaning toward what appears to be freedom, but could ultimately cost her freedom and independence, etc) while she is about what feels good now. Wise people realize the most important, valuable things in life are those we have to plant, cultivate, fertilize, feed, care for and grow.

Your daughter may not see it now, but in time, she will and those moments the OW is relishing in now will be gone and you will have a stronger, more mature relationship with your daughter.

I was glad to read that you realized the negativity the OW expresses about you regarding your daughter would bite her. This is so true.

Hang in there, fly. You're tough and you're a great mom. I'm not sure I made sense, but it made sense as I typed it.

Crushy

[flyaway]

lol, Crushy! Yeah, I understand what you're saying. The analogy is also making me hungry. haha.

You know, A's having her ups and downs now. She's only turning 11 in April, but she's dealing with mono right now and trying to heal from that. She seems like she's in a much better place, emotionally. I'm so glad to be her mom! And I am here for the long haul. I know that sometimes we are overworked and underappreciated as moms, but that's ok. I can live with that. xh is continuing to be the jerk that he's most comfortable being, and well, if I don't expect anything else, I'll not be disappointed, right?