Post by ionysis on Feb 15, 2009 2:45:28 GMT -5
Prompted by Shattered I thought I'd pop in and give anyone who's interested an update on what's going on in my world.
Things have been pretty hectic in my life over the last 9 months and continue that way.
I met a guy in July last year who I fell head over heels for and vice versa. He is in the Royal Navy and I met him when he was deployed in the Gulf. We've had a challenging relationship, being apart for long stretches because of his job. Its been either weekends here or there when we fly to see each other or stretches of weeks at a time where he has been living with me when he returned from deployment or has had leave.
We are very different people in many ways:
I have ADHD (totally disorganised, messy, chaotic, impulsive, optimistic, extrovert) he has OCD (compulsively neat and tidy, organised, meticulous with money, anxious, tends to err on the side of caution, shy with people).
But we have the same values, the same family background, the same dreams and ambitions in life and it seems that we are both equally crazy about each other.
Although we are on the face of it so different, we seem to complement each other brilliantly. He makes a huge effort with my friends, my family adore him, our parents get along fabulously, his organisation tempers my chaotic nature, my impulsiveness brings excitement and interest to his routines. His OCD does not make him easy to live with and he has a quick temper, but I thrive on challenges and one of my main strengths is managing difficult situations. I get very easily bored and his volatility keeps me from taking things for granted.
He wants to stay at home and look after the kids, I want to keep working. He loves to do housework, I hate to clean. I need to know everything and he needs to tell me everything that is going through his mind. I love to talk and he communicates more and better than any man I've ever known. I love to give and he lacks the material things that I have in abundance. I love to be wanted and he is possessive and passionate.
Its a strange, unorthodox, tempestuous relationship and I wouldn't change it for the world. I love him passionately.
He proposed to me at Christmas time having asked both my parents permission. It is soon - we've only been together 7 months now but I am 31 and he is 35 so we aren't kids and we didn't see the point of waiting just for the sake of it when this is what we both want.
The wedding is on April 11th in London. We have both been treated pretty horribly by exes and our families are thrilled and overjoyed that we are together and both wholeheartedly support us. Friends and family both have said to us that we are made and meant for each other.
As we haven't been together long we had planned on a longer engagement but his father is very ill and isn't expected to live much longer. It was important to my fiance to have his father there if at all possible when we marry. Also as most of his friends are in the Navy we had to have the wedding at a time when they would be on leave and Easter was the most practical.
Fortunately my mother is retired and has been having the time of her life helping us to plan, book and finalise the wedding in a short period of time. All seems to be in order now (touch wood) and I get my dress in 10 days.
My fiance has now resigned from the Navy and will be coming out to Abu Dhabi after we are married. We are going to buy a boat and start our own business. He will do fishing trips, dive charters, island tours and the like. We also plan to start trying for a baby as soon as we can. We plan that he will be the primary carer and I will be the main breadwinner, which suits us both perfectly. Now I just hope I manage to fall pregnant easily - I have PCOS which can make conceiving challenging - but I guess we'll still have a lot of fun trying anyway!
I have also just started a new job which I love. Its interesting work and I like the guys I work with a lot. I've just bought a house in the UK too which I'm planning on renting out. I think its prudent to have something back there just in case anything happens in the Middle East - its important to have something to go home to. Its got 3 bedrooms so should be big enough to move to even if we had kids.
So its a busy time for me!
I hope everything is good for everyone else. I post only a little these days but I always read what's been happening. Anyway, that's my news.
Things have been pretty hectic in my life over the last 9 months and continue that way.
I met a guy in July last year who I fell head over heels for and vice versa. He is in the Royal Navy and I met him when he was deployed in the Gulf. We've had a challenging relationship, being apart for long stretches because of his job. Its been either weekends here or there when we fly to see each other or stretches of weeks at a time where he has been living with me when he returned from deployment or has had leave.
We are very different people in many ways:
I have ADHD (totally disorganised, messy, chaotic, impulsive, optimistic, extrovert) he has OCD (compulsively neat and tidy, organised, meticulous with money, anxious, tends to err on the side of caution, shy with people).
But we have the same values, the same family background, the same dreams and ambitions in life and it seems that we are both equally crazy about each other.
Although we are on the face of it so different, we seem to complement each other brilliantly. He makes a huge effort with my friends, my family adore him, our parents get along fabulously, his organisation tempers my chaotic nature, my impulsiveness brings excitement and interest to his routines. His OCD does not make him easy to live with and he has a quick temper, but I thrive on challenges and one of my main strengths is managing difficult situations. I get very easily bored and his volatility keeps me from taking things for granted.
He wants to stay at home and look after the kids, I want to keep working. He loves to do housework, I hate to clean. I need to know everything and he needs to tell me everything that is going through his mind. I love to talk and he communicates more and better than any man I've ever known. I love to give and he lacks the material things that I have in abundance. I love to be wanted and he is possessive and passionate.
Its a strange, unorthodox, tempestuous relationship and I wouldn't change it for the world. I love him passionately.
He proposed to me at Christmas time having asked both my parents permission. It is soon - we've only been together 7 months now but I am 31 and he is 35 so we aren't kids and we didn't see the point of waiting just for the sake of it when this is what we both want.
The wedding is on April 11th in London. We have both been treated pretty horribly by exes and our families are thrilled and overjoyed that we are together and both wholeheartedly support us. Friends and family both have said to us that we are made and meant for each other.
As we haven't been together long we had planned on a longer engagement but his father is very ill and isn't expected to live much longer. It was important to my fiance to have his father there if at all possible when we marry. Also as most of his friends are in the Navy we had to have the wedding at a time when they would be on leave and Easter was the most practical.
Fortunately my mother is retired and has been having the time of her life helping us to plan, book and finalise the wedding in a short period of time. All seems to be in order now (touch wood) and I get my dress in 10 days.
My fiance has now resigned from the Navy and will be coming out to Abu Dhabi after we are married. We are going to buy a boat and start our own business. He will do fishing trips, dive charters, island tours and the like. We also plan to start trying for a baby as soon as we can. We plan that he will be the primary carer and I will be the main breadwinner, which suits us both perfectly. Now I just hope I manage to fall pregnant easily - I have PCOS which can make conceiving challenging - but I guess we'll still have a lot of fun trying anyway!
I have also just started a new job which I love. Its interesting work and I like the guys I work with a lot. I've just bought a house in the UK too which I'm planning on renting out. I think its prudent to have something back there just in case anything happens in the Middle East - its important to have something to go home to. Its got 3 bedrooms so should be big enough to move to even if we had kids.
So its a busy time for me!
I hope everything is good for everyone else. I post only a little these days but I always read what's been happening. Anyway, that's my news.
, but that is very much separate from how glad I am to hear your news. Sure, we don't know each other, but hearing good news from a fellow "graduate" of what brought us here in the first place is a great thing.
