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Post by jules on Feb 21, 2009 12:38:59 GMT -5
I'm really, really sorry that Crushy deleted her account here. Especially because it seems it was because of petty remarks based on nothing to do with reality. That's a shame. Her kind spirit will be missed on this board.
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Post by kittenhart on Feb 21, 2009 15:56:47 GMT -5
I'm really, really sorry that Crushy deleted her account here. Especially because it seems it was because of petty remarks based on nothing to do with reality. That's a shame. Her kind spirit will be missed on this board. me too. |
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Post by AngelBaby on Feb 21, 2009 16:13:10 GMT -5
I'm really, really sorry that Crushy deleted her account here. Especially because it seems it was because of petty remarks based on nothing to do with reality. That's a shame. Her kind spirit will be missed on this board. That makes 3 of us.  I logged on today and was very sad to see that she'd deleted her account. I will have to hunt around and see if I can find her email....... |
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Post by loshyra on Feb 21, 2009 18:06:06 GMT -5
Crush is ok, and will be ok. She has been hurt by a lot of stuff going on, and does not need comments from here to pile on top of everything else she has to stress about.
Her and Walt deserve the best, and I am POSITIVE that they will make this marriage work!!!
She also wanted me to let everyone know that:
I will go to my grave with others' secrets. It's not my place to judge. I'm going to miss some, but maybe this is what I needed to move on. I just wish it had been on a happy note and not a sour, sad note that makes me ache to the bone.
Anyway, I just wanted to let you all know that. I will try to check in every now and then, but I agree with Tami and think that I will just move on..
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Post by flyaway on Feb 22, 2009 5:19:21 GMT -5
Ummm....I'd like to go next. (raises hand) My name is Flyaway and I'm an OJAR alumnus. I joined back in July 2005 and my comrades at OJAR and support network IRL is what pulled me through some of the dark before an amazing dawn. 3.5 years later, I find myself married *again* to a man worthy of respect. I am a mother to an 11year old, a 8 year old, a step mom to a 12 year old and a 15 year old. It's hectic, and still stressful thanks to the wanker that is my xh. But R and I were talking about this the other night: it's different. Yes, his xw and my xh cause us stress and frustration almost daily, but inside the walls of our home, there is peace. It's a refuge. Not only inside the "structure", but inside our marriage. We know we've got each other's back and that's wonderful knowledge.  The kids are adjusting, and we are adjusting and learning and growing. It's interesting, and sad too, in a way....how people just seem to cross our paths that we are able to encourage and support through their own time of storm following the end of a marriage. I've stopped feeling guilty for finding R....rather, I've embraced the whole journey.....even the "scenic bits" and am now able to pay it forward...mostly in real life now. I've not much time for online shenanigans. So hello to all you "oldies" and "goodies".....wish you all the best...and I'm with Shey. LOL! I thought there was going to be a REAL reunion! take care! fly |
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Post by sheyd on Feb 23, 2009 12:12:46 GMT -5
I need a bit of time to see how things are going to settle out before I make any more updates - but hey - maybe we SHOULD plan some kind of reunion? Or I should say, someone else should and I will show up? ;D
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Post by Phoenixx on Feb 23, 2009 18:54:35 GMT -5
Wow...what happened here? I can't believe Crushy is gone...she helped me through some really tough times. Loshrya...if you check here again, tell her M misses her. She'll know the crazy British chick with back problems.. I loved the updates from people. Yes, this is an online board and I am (yet) to meet anyone, but I do think about certain people from time to time and wonder(hope) they are doing wonderfully. For my own update: Well...I have almost completed my degree. I live somewhere else now. My heartache is healing along nicely. I dont talk to the ex- at all. I have a crush on a lovely person, who is reminding of me quite a few things, most importantly that life is for living, not existing. I am working on plans that will get me a wonderful summer with some wonderful friends I will finally get to meet (*wink wink*). Life isn't perfect...but I can say I am mostly happy.  |
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Post by lostinspace on Feb 28, 2009 16:17:33 GMT -5
Hi all Ojar friends... Don't know if any of you remember me, Lostinspace. I just hopped on Ojar.com today to see how things were and I guess this is the new place? Looks like no one has posted there is two years, boy am I out of touch...lol
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Post by amola on Mar 3, 2009 10:10:42 GMT -5
I need a bit of time to see how things are going to settle out before I make any more updates - but hey - maybe we SHOULD plan some kind of reunion? Or I should say, someone else should and I will show up? ;D kansastock II??? lol |
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Post by ironman on Mar 4, 2009 14:01:25 GMT -5
Hey gang,
First of all, congratulations to Crushy and to Flyaway.. ain't it great to see how there can be light at the end of the tunnel.
I spent a lot of sleepless nights on Ojar and thanks to so many of you who helped pull me out of the deepest darkest swamp I've ever sunk into.
Life is good... no... GREAT. No particular significant other in my life, but lots of friends and I can appreciate how wonderful it is to be able to wake up in the morning and not have to hear what a rotten SOB I was.
I wish all of you the very best.
Thanks for the reunion by the way!
Peace and happiness to you all, and to those of you still in your personal Hells, hang in there.
This too shall pass.
Warmest regards,
iron man ;D
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Post by ironman on Mar 4, 2009 14:02:47 GMT -5
Oh and...
Lost in Space... you're not out of touch... yer just lost in space!
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Post by rocko on Mar 4, 2009 15:36:32 GMT -5
Sully here.
Lets see joined Aug/Sept/October of 2004.
Since thenI:
am almost done with my Bachelors in Business Management
am remarried to a wonderful man (Kevin).
am very happy.
am totally healed.
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Post by flyaway on Mar 5, 2009 14:41:15 GMT -5
am very happy. am totally healed. awesome. I don't know that I'll ever be totally healed. I suppose if I had the luxury of no contact, it may go more that direction for me. But alas, no such luck.  |
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Post by yellowjacket on Mar 5, 2009 22:34:45 GMT -5
I miss OJar. It brought me many friends. Here's my post-OJar update: Completely healed from my "OJar" breakup (marriage) and have been for years. Getting over a later relationship now. The story is on page 2 of this board. In response to the "HugThat" breakup in Oct. I was determined to make my life better. I've taken care of an issue that has haunted me for years and has really dominated my life in a negative way. I've worked constantly on my thought process to be able to withstand anything I have to without letting it get me down. I've finally come to fully accept that my happiness comes only from me and does not depend on anyone else. For the first time in forever I'm completely okay with not having a girlfriend. I got an old hip problem fixed and am starting to be a runner again. I'll be training for a marathon to be run in December. For me this is huge. I was very happy in my last relationship so I won't say I'm in a better place now. I am doing the work and will be soon. I fully accept I deserve someone better than her but I'll be happy with or without that. And as an added bonus, I get to meet my longtime OJar nemesis Tarheel next week. And BluSky too! |
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Post by rd2942 on Mar 12, 2009 11:04:36 GMT -5
I found Ojar in March 2007; just a few short weeks after leaving my (now) ex-husband. He cheated on me amongst a host of other betrayals that I don't need to list here. Ojar members helped me through so many sleepless nights and so many days when I thought I was all alone. I got to realize that everyone has a story - and everyone's story was as painful to them as mine was to me. Thanks to everyone who was there for me - and I hope that I was able to provide some comfort to others as well. (I am really sad that Crushy and Loshyra left because they were always willing to listen and provide thoughtful, helpful input...even if it wasn't to me, I never missed reading their posts. I miss you guys.)It has been two years now (almost exactly) and I am now 33 years old. I have a great job and received a promotion and two raises in the 15 months I've been here. My job is relatively secure in this economic mess which is comforting. I have a boyfriend who is 7 years younger than me (!). I had some issues around his age, education, finances, which my new (and old) hugthat friends have helped me with, and I am extremely content with where things are now. (I can tell you if you really want to know  ). I am still in therapy - which I started when everything happened with my ex. My therapist is really wonderful, and I have been able to decrease my visits from 2-3 times a week to once a month. I won't stop therapy for a while at least, beacuse I know I have issues that still need to be addressed. I avoided going on antidepressants and anti-anxiety medications by going to the gym and taking mega-doses of omega-3s. I am proud of myself for that, although I do sometimes have a mini-OCD moment... I think I've done relatively well in the last two years. There will always be growth opportunities for me in every aspect of my life from professional to personal, and I never forget that. But in the meantime, I can say that I am content. Thanks Ojar - and now - thanks Hugthat  |
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I logged on today and was very sad to see that she'd deleted her account. 
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