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Post by prairienomad on Jan 22, 2008 16:33:36 GMT -5
Wrestling fans, can you help me understand? What's the big attraction?
When we were together before, my boyfriend watched wrestling Monday night, Wednesday and Friday night with any occasional other night thrown in sometimes. Since each show is from 2-3 hours long, that ate up three nights a week. Added to the fact that he worked shiftwork, it was really difficult to see him.
Now, when I call him, he is often watching wrestling, and now seems to be into another fighting show (TFC?) and I'm wonderingf if this is going to be an issue for us.
I absolutely hate wrestling (I tried watching it for a while to spend time with him, but no, I hate it. Sorry.) Do you think that this is an issue for a relationship? I appreciate any feedback. Thanks!
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Post by Phoenixx on Jan 22, 2008 16:45:31 GMT -5
You can sit him down and explain you miss spending time with him. Make it a loving conversation, rather than a "you're doing this wrong" thing. Tell him you want to see him more then agree on at least one evening where its just you and him, no tv. Quality time.
Good luck!
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Post by Saucy on Jan 22, 2008 16:59:01 GMT -5
Well 2-3 hours for 3 nights a week is alot to be watching a wrestling show...i mean that stuff isnt even real.
I think you meant "UFC" Ultimate Fighting Championship, or "Pride", No Holds Barred... i'm a huge spectator of those events. They only have those events like once or sometimes twice a month.
Have you tried discussing your quality time spent with him? I seriously think its a huge waste of time if your over at his place to hang out with him and all he does is watch wrestling for 3 hours.
Have you tried initiating your own ideas for activities you both could enjoy together?
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Post by prairienomad on Jan 22, 2008 17:15:27 GMT -5
Well 2-3 hours for 3 nights a week is alot to be watching a wrestling show...i mean that stuff isnt even real. I think you meant "UFC" Ultimate Fighting Championship, or "Pride", No Holds Barred... i'm a huge spectator of those events. They only have those events like once or sometimes twice a month. Have you tried discussing your quality time spent with him? I seriously think its a huge waste of time if your over at his place to hang out with him and all he does is watch wrestling for 3 hours. Have you tried initiating your own ideas for activities you both could enjoy together? Well, before I was staying with him and his family before. Now, we are long distance and I will be moving back soon to the same city as him. He got really defensive saying that it was "his time" and "his right". Wrestling was his fun ... for him. We are both saying that we are going to have a fresh start, and I don't want to bring it up yet until I see how things go. But I guess I am also wondering about how to incorporate very different interests in a relationship. I mean, I don't get the appeal of wrestling at all, and then I wonder if that is indicative of how different we are as people ... and that is a problem. |
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Post by lumpy on Jan 22, 2008 17:17:21 GMT -5
To me, the only worthwhile segment of Pro Wrestling is the side stories, fueds and interviews. WWE actually used to do a pretty good job of "writing" fairly entertaining fueds among the wrestlers. I haven't watched it in ages, but for me, the sideshow was always more fun than the actual matches.
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Post by blazinheart on Jan 22, 2008 17:49:41 GMT -5
To me, the only worthwhile segment of Pro Wrestling is the side stories, fueds and interviews. WWE actually used to do a pretty good job of "writing" fairly entertaining fueds among the wrestlers. I haven't watched it in ages, but for me, the sideshow was always more fun than the actual matches. Yeah, wrestling for guys it what soap operas are for women. But I agree with Saucy, 3 nights a week for several hours is too much. But, either he's willing to compromise or he's not. I guess that'll be the real issue, compromise. |
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Post by prairienomad on Jan 22, 2008 17:59:07 GMT -5
To me, the only worthwhile segment of Pro Wrestling is the side stories, fueds and interviews. WWE actually used to do a pretty good job of "writing" fairly entertaining fueds among the wrestlers. I haven't watched it in ages, but for me, the sideshow was always more fun than the actual matches. Yeah, wrestling for guys it what soap operas are for women. But I agree with Saucy, 3 nights a week for several hours is too much. But, either he's willing to compromise or he's not. I guess that'll be the real issue, compromise. That's funny you would say that. That's exactly how he describes it ... as his soap operas. And I don't want to make it an issue until it becomes one. Right now we are 2500 km apart. When I move back to the city and get my own place, we will see how things go. I guess I'm wondering about it from an interest point of view, though. Does his love for wrestling vs. my hate for wrestling signal incompatiblity, or is it just a normal male-female difference? Just looking for opinions. |
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Post by Dave on Jan 22, 2008 18:06:05 GMT -5
will he reciprocate and watch midsummer's night dream with you? If the answer is no, i'd say it's bound to be an issue.
my $0.02.
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Post by Phoenixx on Jan 22, 2008 18:11:35 GMT -5
Its normal human-human differences. I read romance novels. My sister cant abide them. I watch a lot of my movies, my best friend hates them. I cant stand marmite my lil sister GORGES on the stuff.
People are different. Dont worry. Its the compromise thats important.
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Post by goods on Jan 22, 2008 18:14:24 GMT -5
What the heck is Marmite? Is it like Kryptonite?
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Post by Dave on Jan 22, 2008 18:18:09 GMT -5
People are different. Dont worry. Its the compromise thats important. True enough, but 2-3 hours a night 3-4 times a week ain't what i call compromise. |
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Post by blazinheart on Jan 22, 2008 18:18:15 GMT -5
I guess I'm wondering about it from an interest point of view, though. Does his love for wrestling vs. my hate for wrestling signal incompatiblity, or is it just a normal male-female difference? I definitely wouldn't automatically see this as a sign of incompatability. Guys are funny when it comes to stuff like proffesional wrestling. Personally, I think it's a hoot. It can be incredibly entertaining, it's idiotic and it makes me feel really smart. But like I said, I think your bf watches it too much. I think he needs to realize just how stupid and immature it is. I don't mind sitting around and watching a little wrestling with my friends to make fun of it and such, but if I found out one of my friends was watching it religiously 3 nights a week for hours I'd tell him to pull his head out of his ass or i'll closeline him and piledrive his head into the floor. |
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Post by finding on Jan 22, 2008 18:19:16 GMT -5
I think she may have ment marmot. If that is the case, I ain't never eating no groundhog.
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Post by blazinheart on Jan 22, 2008 18:22:55 GMT -5
If I caught my friend watching wrestling 3 nights a week, this is what I would do to him:
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Post by lumpy on Jan 22, 2008 18:52:07 GMT -5
If I caught my friend watching wrestling 3 nights a week, this is what I would do to him: I think you smell what the Blaze is cookin', Jabrone. |
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