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Post by Phyxius on Jan 1, 2008 14:49:20 GMT -5
I am going to be tackling dating like a new job. It may sound weird but this is how I attack everything in my life. Like a business plan....... Falling in love is not a business proposition. Somehow, I get the feeling that in your case money would have to change hands...
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Post by wizer on Jan 1, 2008 15:06:05 GMT -5
Somehow, I get the feeling that in your case money would have to change hands... You are actually correct that my skills are so accomplished that I could probably make a decent living at it if I so chose to charge the women for my services. But it's just not my way. Thanks for the implied compliment though.
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Post by wizer on Jan 1, 2008 15:07:27 GMT -5
perhaps the foul mouth is turning away possible candidates leaving you single That's probably why she isn't using large fonts anymore. She is gradually weaning herself off. Next time she gets made, she will say... "go somewhere else"
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Post by ladyj on Jan 1, 2008 15:31:46 GMT -5
Thanks for ruining my thread troll.
Back on topic...
What I mean is this. I am making a plan on how to become more social, more active, meet new people. I have had a couple of very lonely years and it has caused me to withdraw more and more.
New habits will be forged.
First two steps in my plan.
January: a} sign up for a class b} join a biking club
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Post by wizer on Jan 1, 2008 15:32:58 GMT -5
That's a very good start. Serious.
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Post by JC on Jan 1, 2008 15:37:56 GMT -5
i think you should take a class of some sort. really get out there, but not in a bar or anything.. i mean, you might get lucky with soemone from a bar but probably not just doing all sorts of different things is cool. you get out there and have fun doing it, and then you may just meet someone!
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Post by blazinheart on Jan 1, 2008 19:33:32 GMT -5
sometimes you are single for a reason. if you are pining for a relationship, maybe you aren't ready for one. at least, that's what i am starting to see myself. that i have to be comfortable with myself first, before i start looking for comfort from others. Very accurate statement there lt! I think it's pertanent to this discussion as well. Too many people, women especially, become desperate and jump from one unhealthy relationship to the next. I know you haven't done that LadyJ, I was just making a general observation about people.
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Post by ladyj on Jan 1, 2008 19:36:54 GMT -5
Ya I am not desperate at all. I am fine on my own, truly. I just want to share my life with someone. I love being part of a couple. Friendship comes first for me as well. It is a great way to sift through the garbage actually. I remember this one guy being furious at me because I would not sleep with him. I was like, see the door, walk through it. He was kind of shocked LOL sometimes you are single for a reason. if you are pining for a relationship, maybe you aren't ready for one. at least, that's what i am starting to see myself. that i have to be comfortable with myself first, before i start looking for comfort from others. Very accurate statement there lt! I think it's pertanent to this discussion as well. Too many people, women especially, become desperate and jump from one unhealthy relationship to the next. I know you haven't done that LadyJ, I was just making a general observation about people.
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Post by blazinheart on Jan 1, 2008 19:42:32 GMT -5
Random thought here, not directed at anyone. I think it's ok to want and even feel the need for someone, but I don't think it's ok consider changing who you are to fit someone else.
What I see a lot of is, mostly women, changing themselves for every man that comes along. This happens because these women never take the time to find out who they truly are before they start getting involved.
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Post by ladyj on Jan 1, 2008 19:46:10 GMT -5
Agreed except for where you keep referring to "mostly women" in your posts. I think my ex before my ex is a people pleaser and tries to become what he thinks his new partner wants. That of course eventually falls apart as it is a lie. I fell for it as I did not realize people actually play the game so deceitfully. How naive was I. Random thought here, not directed at anyone. I think it's ok to want and even feel the need for someone, but I don't think it's ok consider changing who you are to fit someone else. What I see a lot of is, mostly women, changing themselves for every man that comes along. This happens because these women never take the time to find out who they truly are before they start getting involved.
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Post by blazinheart on Jan 1, 2008 19:49:23 GMT -5
Agreed except for where you keep referring to "mostly women" in your posts. I think my ex before my ex is a people pleaser and tries to become what he thinks his new partner wants. That of course eventually falls apart as it is a lie. I fell for it as I did not realize people actually play the game so deceitfully. How naive was I. I'm just saying that it's mostly women that I see doing this. I'm not trying to say that men don't do it as well. Just that I don't believe it's as common for men.
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Post by JimB on Jan 1, 2008 21:07:05 GMT -5
Lady J -
What sort of things are you planning to do to feed your soul that don't involve a man?
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Post by ladyj on Jan 1, 2008 21:11:02 GMT -5
Well Jim.....
I'm exploring my lesbian side lately. What sort of things do you do to feed your soul that has nothing to do with a woman?
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Post by goods on Jan 1, 2008 21:18:17 GMT -5
Um ok.. some tension there. I think I lost myself trying to please her... trying to make every minute of our lives together "smooth"... I also think that lessened her attraction for me. No more rolling over and showing my belly.
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Post by wizer on Jan 1, 2008 21:19:35 GMT -5
Well Jim..... I'm exploring my lesbian side lately. What sort of things do you do to feed your soul that has nothing to do with a woman? Hint:
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