Post by prairienomad on Jan 27, 2008 22:10:18 GMT -5
Hi ... some of you have followed my story from OJAR. My ex-boyfriend and I got back together after 6 months of separation.
This time, for the first time in my life, I am really pre-thinking things before I jump. (Before, I just blithely jumped in, and paid the consequences later! )
But I am scared! I have so many questions.
What will happen when we disagree about money. What will we do? Will he listen to me? What about his kids? Will I have any say? How much? Will we be able to keep our communication open? Keep close so we don't drift apart? What about our differences in interests, etc? Will we be able to compromise? Will we both be able to feel at home, in spite of the differences?
Will I be able to trust him as a husband? Will he be able to trust me as wife? Will we able to share our faith? Do we have enough in common in our values to make a go at it?
I wanted commitment from him before, but now that it seems like it's coming, I am terrified out of my tree!
You are the only person that knows your boyfriend or soon to be hubby better than all of us. These problems/conflicts you mention are EVERY relationship, and depending on your partner, how his reactions/solutions to these problems should definitely tell you whats normal, and whats not acceptable.
Go forth with eyes wide open, and be smart about it. besides, what have you got to lose anyways, considering you are a self sufficient independant woman.
I know its kinda scary because it may be a big adjustment in your life and you want to be prepared in every situation that's inevitable. The most important thing to know, is to remain calm, think positively and reasonably, and try not to over-analyze each situation.. good luck!