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Post by crushy on Feb 8, 2008 0:42:10 GMT -5
I've completed my documentation for the Interrogatories scheduled for the Pre-trial on March 3rd. I'm feeling even better after getting that done than I did before and I was already confident, but I am wondering...Did any of you go to Trial regarding custody? I'm just wondering what to expect (other than a HUGE attorney bill).  Crushy  |
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Post by rocko on Feb 11, 2008 9:41:16 GMT -5
My sister did NOT go to trial when they originally decided on custody.
She did take him back to court to try to get more money and more time (she already had 60 a week and sunday night - Friday EVERY WEEK). The lawyers and their clients stood on each side of the room (there was a table that the client set at). My sister's lawyer pleaded her case. My xBIL's lawyer told why it was stupid and the judge said, "nothing has changed the PPP will remain unchanged".
It was really fast and really not what I had expected. I have a very TV version of court in my head still.
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Post by redskyatnight on Feb 11, 2008 15:10:38 GMT -5
My ex and I agreed to 50% physical custody in the beginning. Long story - but we weren't able to communicate, so we've been back in custody court for 2 years. If I hadn't agreed to the 50/50 in the beginning, I wouldn't be doing this now.
Expect - We had a guardian-ad-litem appointed for the kids, interviews and home visits because of that.
Its hard to say what to expect without knowing the details.
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Post by rocko on Feb 11, 2008 16:52:13 GMT -5
Have you tried a mediator first?
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Post by crushy on Feb 14, 2008 10:39:03 GMT -5
Have you tried a mediator first? Yes, and it was a complete waste of time. Now we get to go to Mediation again with the newly appointed Guardian ad Litem like sapphire mentioned. That was another quick $1,000 (he has to pay $1,000 too). I just want peace for my sons. I guess that's too much to ask from their dad. |
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Post by freckles on Feb 14, 2008 11:45:45 GMT -5
If you can Drag it out until they are 18 then the question will be *moot* Of course you and your Ex will have paid for both Your Lawyers Yachts and 2 and 3 rd Mansions and Giant Swimming Pools and Mercedes and Lamborghinis and stuff The Lawyers get Rich Sometimes though, thats all you can do  |
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Post by redskyatnight on Feb 14, 2008 12:06:07 GMT -5
Have you tried a mediator first? I just want peace for my sons. I guess that's too much to ask from their dad. Since you are in mediation and have a guardian, I think you are in for a long haul. My ex has shot himself in the foot several times, but the court still gives him opportunities to do the right thing. I've spent $16,000. Let's see....2 years in court......4 court hearings......and he still gets another chance, but this one is his last. BTW-the guardian recommended I get full custody and he still gets another chance. Do everything you can to cooperate but not roll over and show your stomach. Represent to your kids and the court that you want what is best for the kids and then DO IT, no matter how hard or how much you don't want to talk to their Dad. In the end, my kids happiness and providing a healthy environment is what matters. I'd spend double what I already have, if I had too. Kids are that important. |
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Post by crushy on Feb 23, 2008 20:51:07 GMT -5
I just want peace for my sons. I guess that's too much to ask from their dad. Since you are in mediation and have a guardian, I think you are in for a long haul. My ex has shot himself in the foot several times, but the court still gives him opportunities to do the right thing. I've spent $16,000. Let's see....2 years in court......4 court hearings......and he still gets another chance, but this one is his last. BTW-the guardian recommended I get full custody and he still gets another chance. Do everything you can to cooperate but not roll over and show your stomach. Represent to your kids and the court that you want what is best for the kids and then DO IT, no matter how hard or how much you don't want to talk to their Dad. In the end, my kids happiness and providing a healthy environment is what matters. I'd spend double what I already have, if I had too. Kids are that important. I hear ya, sapphire. Mine is so brilliant, his first claim (over 2 yrs after he left me w/ sole custody) claimed I had a 'self-proclaimed head injury' that I use as an excuse. Two years later he claims I am not able to be the sole custodial parent because of my head injury that prevents me from making decisions. Okay, I'm not a judge or a rocket scientist and I have a head injury and I can see the blanent stupidity and contradiction in that! This is just a tiny glimpse into the stupidity of his case. He claimed I could not work and stayed home and basically slobbered all over myself while I kept my sons home to take care of me, but I was able to produce my 15 yrs of service award last year. He has some sense of sick entitlement and you'd think he'd give up. At first, I thought maybe he figured he'd file bankruptcy on his attorney's fees when all is said and done, but she just filed a lien on his home for what he owes her. Mine hasn't because I pay him and he trusts me. I just pray their baby due in April will a least slow her down (because knowing him, the added stress will make him worse at the lying and scheming because of his terror he feels with the birth of a new child. Our WORST years were during pregnancy and right after when I was home playing mommy. I don't want to paint him out to be a bad dad because he is a great dad in a lot of ways. He makes sure they are warm and comfortable, they eat, shower, brush their teeth, take their medicine, but he's fighting tooth and nail about giving me the money he owes me that will only go to his boys and their futures. Since we were in court, one of my attorney's informed me he is in foreclosure, he still owes me for his half of medical expenses for both boys back to November. I swear, he's either got an inflated sense of self or is losing it during a long-term mid-life crisis. I'm not out to get him. I actually pity him, but he keeps coming at me with crap, harassment and accusations that are either completely made up or only obtained through 3rd degree felony resources. |
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Post by crushy on Jul 2, 2008 14:50:47 GMT -5
So, are things over for you, Sefert? Just wondering...
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