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Post by finding on Mar 1, 2008 10:20:46 GMT -5
Second date happened last night. I had a great time, but I am even more confused than before. I don't know if things are just starting or ending. I like this one, but he is so hard to read. It doesn't help he is headed out of town for a few days tomorrow. I just wish I knew what he was thinking. . . . .
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Post by ionysis on Mar 1, 2008 13:43:20 GMT -5
Ugh, I hate that. I've got to say I admire you for putting yourself back in the dating world. If this reconciliation with my ex doesn't work out I really don't beieve I have any desire to date or meet someone else. The thought of going through that whole getting to know someone proces again, not knowing how they think or what is going through their head is just so depressing and exhausting. It takes such a long time too. I just don't have the energy or the will to contempate months of never knowing whether I'm coming or going - does he like me, is he going to call, am I reading this right... But hey, don't listen to me. Apparanety some peopl find this fun! Seriously, don't stress. What will be will be. You can only be yourself. You can't change what he is thinking - or indeed even know what he might be thinking with any accuracy. Keep moving onwards and hopefully he will end up being a truly lovey guy who will come trotting along with you. If you're still wondering what the hell is going on in 3 months time then I'd worry. For now - well - this is what is supposed to be happening after the second date. Enjoy!
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Post by Dave on Mar 1, 2008 13:51:26 GMT -5
it's a second date, L. Relax. If you are interested, go on a third and then decide if you want a fourth, etc. Stop planning and try to enjoy the now.
What he's thinking? Depends on what top you are wearing, really.
My $.02
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Post by finding on Mar 1, 2008 17:00:48 GMT -5
it's a second date, L. Relax. If you are interested, go on a third and then decide if you want a fourth, etc. Stop planning and try to enjoy the now. What he's thinking? Depends on what top you are wearing, really. My $.02 That doesn't help at all there D. Last night I was wearing a skirt and my v-neck clingy top thingy. While at the movie he didn't try a thing. After the movie we came back to my place and had a couple of beers and hung out. We laughed and joked, my god, he's got the same type of sense of humor as I do and we both fed off of it. The world is a pretty scary place After spending hours with him last night I finally got bold and asked him why he hadn't kissed me yet. His response ~ I blanked out after . . . When I am in a relationship . . . We are supposed to be getting together again when he gets back from his trip.
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Post by lumpy on Mar 1, 2008 17:14:04 GMT -5
After spending hours with him last night I finally got bold and asked him why he hadn't kissed me yet. His response ~ I blanked out after . . . When I am in a relationship . . . I'm confuzzled. Was he saying that he's in another relationship or was he referring to you? In any case, I've found that sometimes, when you get physical quickly, you might tend to back-up a bit on the next date.
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Post by finding on Mar 1, 2008 17:17:35 GMT -5
After spending hours with him last night I finally got bold and asked him why he hadn't kissed me yet. His response ~ I blanked out after . . . When I am in a relationship . . . I'm confuzzled. Was he saying that he's in another relationship or was he referring to you? In any case, I've found that sometimes, when you get physical quickly, you might tend to back-up a bit on the next date. I'm not sure what he ment and I wasn't about to push it. I think he was referring to me.
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Post by lumpy on Mar 1, 2008 17:22:59 GMT -5
Okay. I'm just trying to get this straight. You said, "Why haven't you kissed me yet"?
He said, "When I'm in a relationship....What do you think he said after that?
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Post by finding on Mar 1, 2008 17:43:07 GMT -5
Well, I kind of freaked when he said that . . . it was something to the effect of . . . there is so much more than the sexual aspect.
I'm banging my head against the wall at this point.
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Post by wizer on Mar 1, 2008 17:59:57 GMT -5
My analysis is complete. He is a gay man.
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Post by finding on Mar 1, 2008 18:08:37 GMT -5
My analysis is complete. He is a gay man. His reaction when my bra came off says something totally different than that. It was kind of dark, but I'm pretty sure there were tears of joy.
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Post by wizer on Mar 1, 2008 18:10:00 GMT -5
Your bra came off yet you haven't kissed him yet. Interesting.
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Post by finding on Mar 1, 2008 18:15:42 GMT -5
Your bra came off yet you haven't kissed him yet. Interesting. The kiss hadn't occured until hours into the second date. I'm pretty sure you all know how the first one ended. . .
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Post by Phyxius on Mar 1, 2008 18:19:43 GMT -5
Your bra came off yet you haven't kissed him yet. Interesting. The kiss hadn't occured until hours into the second date. I'm pretty sure you all know how the first one ended. . . Sure, but you can retell it anyway...
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Post by wizer on Mar 1, 2008 18:22:37 GMT -5
Your bra came off yet you haven't kissed him yet. Interesting. The kiss hadn't occured until hours into the second date. I'm pretty sure you all know how the first one ended. . . I'm just trying to follow this. You went out on a first date. Hours into the second date you asked him why he hadn't kissed you yet. Then he says something about "when I am in a relationship". I am still confused about the timeline. Did the bra come off after he said this to you? Not trying to be a pest, really. It's just my OCD.
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Post by ionysis on Mar 1, 2008 23:41:39 GMT -5
I think what Finding is saying is that one the second date he hadn't kissed her and when she asked why he implied that on the first date when he mentioned "a relationship" she blanked off from him. Understandable reaction given the history.
Finding this is a GOOD thing. he is clearly interested in more than just a ONS if he is noticing and being affected by things like that.
PS Well done on actually asking that question!
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