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Post by jules on Mar 7, 2008 3:53:44 GMT -5
So. That's that? What's the matter -- couldn't handle the truth? You, who goes on and on about how essential total honesty is? May I remind you that you are the one who asked for the dirty details. I was perfectly content remaining fairly vague about my past. But, oh no, you wanted to have a better understanding of me. Well I gave it to you. I didn't embellish, but I didn't sugarcoat either. Are you sorry you asked? Sure you said all of the right things at the time, but the earsplitting silence in the days that have followed make it resoundingly clear that it was just too much info.
I'm glad to have learned that now. The biggest problem is I wonder if this is the result that will occur every time I open up about my not so pretty past. But I am not ashamed. While I made mistakes of my own, I know that I have my integrity. I know I am a good person who got a really raw deal. It happens. And while I may not have handled things perfectly (and I dare you to show me someone who has), I've done pretty darn well.
I'm really disappointed in you. My scars may not be pretty, but they are as much a part of me as the prettier parts. I thought you were man enough and worthy enough to handle the truth. I bared my soul, and this is the result. Live and learn.
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Post by RO on Mar 7, 2008 10:24:27 GMT -5
jules-
I know you are hurting and that people do disappoint you. You have an amazing heart and are a beautiful woman inside and out.
If he couldn't handle what has happened that is a reflection on him NOT you. People that truely care for you will be there no matter what. It is hard to trust again...I know this when you have been burned...but don't put up the wall. You let me in and I am grateful.
YOU have done nothing wrong. It is unfortunate but some people for whatever reason cannot deal with situations and choose to react differently. I will not let you JUDGE every person in this manner. As your friend, and as someone that truely cares about your happiness and well being...I won't let you.
There are good people in this world...YOU are one of them.
I swear I am buying a plane ticket and kicking someone's ASS! Just don't know which coast it will be.
Alright, am checking tix right now!
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Post by murdock on Mar 7, 2008 12:16:14 GMT -5
It takes a lot of courage to expose all of your flaws to someone. At least you were real. If they can't handle the truth then that is their problem.... NEXT. We are human and make mistakes. I don't want to live in a world where I have to be "perfect." Let's face it... NO ONE is. Pencils have erasers for a reason... because people make mistakes. If someone doesn't make it into your future it is because they didn't deserve to be there.
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Post by kittenhart on Mar 7, 2008 20:28:11 GMT -5
The biggest problem is I wonder if this is the result that will occur every time I open up about my not so pretty past. I don't think so, hun. I think some people just are all talk and have no real courage behind it. You can't ask someone to open up and really share if you are not emotionally equipped and strong enough to deal with whatever fall out comes from that...both for yourself in your emotions and for the person you are asking to open up...you will only make matters worse (which he's gone and done). Basically, if you can't step up then don't ask....(it's irresponsible to). Some relationships are best left at a more shallow level, anyway... especially at first. I'm sure you were being careful and now feel even more burned, but don't let it make you guarded. For him to ask for gory details and then follow that up with days of silence....pfft! Write him off as a spooked chickensh*t. My scars may not be pretty, but they are as much a part of me as the prettier parts.  You are going to be just fine, girl. Walk on. |
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Post by jules on Mar 8, 2008 0:01:11 GMT -5
Some relationships are best left at a more shallow level, anyway Ain't that the truth.  I'm learning... if someone says they want the whole truth that doesn't mean they want the whole truth. Silly me, when I say something I mean it. I stupidly assume that others do as well. My scars may not be pretty, but they are as much a part of me as the prettier parts. You are going to be just fine, girl. Walk on. You know it.  I think maybe it's just better if I walk on my own. |
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Post by jules on Mar 9, 2008 12:42:56 GMT -5
Ok, I need lessons on how to be less open. Because it's obviously a handicap in this world to be a feelings-sharer.  |
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Post by murdock on Mar 9, 2008 12:49:44 GMT -5
Ok, I need lessons on how to be less open. Because it's obviously a handicap in this world to be a feelings-sharer. Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.  |
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Post by prairienomad on Mar 9, 2008 12:49:55 GMT -5
Ok, I need lessons on how to be less open. Because it's obviously a handicap in this world to be a feelings-sharer. I don't think it's really a handicap but rather that the world is a bit handicapped in being transparent. But it still stings, nevertheless. And sometimes we learn by painful experience who we are safe in sharing our feelings/our truth with. |
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Post by jules on Mar 9, 2008 13:00:44 GMT -5
Ok, I need lessons on how to be less open. Because it's obviously a handicap in this world to be a feelings-sharer. Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. hey, i love that quote. dr. seuss rocks. |
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You are going to be just fine, girl. Walk on.
I'm learning... if someone says they want the whole truth that doesn't mean they want the whole truth. Silly me, when I say something I mean it. I stupidly assume that others do as well.
I think maybe it's just better if I walk on my own.
