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sheyd
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Slow... and Reality Mar 14, 2008 11:24:26 GMT -5

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Post by sheyd on Mar 14, 2008 11:24:26 GMT -5

I know it can get a bit slow around here - in part because so few of us are in the middle of personal life dramas, we aren't fresh to a breakup (we just don't get the newbies like ojar did).

Frankly, to me slow is ok. I would like a newbie or two to respond to to feel useful... but mostly I just like to know this place is here if I ever REALLY need it. If something happens to me, my "family" is here. I also like to think I can be there for my friends if they need me. Plus, sometimes we just go through weird phases, or wonder if something is normal as we start dating or being in new relationships.

Plus - I want to meet all of you! If you stay here, chat, get to know each other, we BECOME real to each other. There have been so many acts of kindness, so many real friendships. Heck, we even have some marriages and new babies from ojar! I myself have been with the person I met from ojar... This stuff really is as real as you let it be.. and we all need real friends, at some time or another.

So, yes, I take it serious, what I read here - but I HAVE met some of you - and plan to meet others. You MATTER to me. So to me, slow just means things are going ok for you all - and that, to me, is worth celebrating!

Shey

finding God Posts: 1,064	Slow... and Reality Mar 14, 2008 11:31:52 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by finding on Mar 14, 2008 11:31:52 GMT -5 There is something to be said for slow and steady . . .
	Bite me.

pennylane God Posts: 608	Slow... and Reality Mar 14, 2008 12:46:10 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by pennylane on Mar 14, 2008 12:46:10 GMT -5 I'm ready for another "get-together" Chicago was a blast. You ready Shey? I'm going to be in Chicago in a few weeks for a conference. Shey what was that fun weiner place we ate at?

sheyd God Posts: 1,437	Slow... and Reality Mar 14, 2008 12:56:03 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by sheyd on Mar 14, 2008 12:56:03 GMT -5 Ed DeBeviks - and YES! OF COURSE I am up for another meet!!! Tell me when you are near, and I am THERE. Shey

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Slow... and Reality Mar 14, 2008 13:00:09 GMT -5

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Post by pennylane on Mar 14, 2008 13:00:09 GMT -5

Mar 14, 2008 12:56:03 GMT -5 sheyd said:

Ed DeBeviks - and YES! OF COURSE I am up for another meet!!! Tell me when you are near, and I am THERE.

Shey

Who else wants to try and meet up? When's a good time and where could you fly/drive to?

Phyxius
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Slow... and Reality Mar 15, 2008 18:58:21 GMT -5

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Post by Phyxius on Mar 15, 2008 18:58:21 GMT -5

Hmmmm...

I've always wanted to see Chicago. Not sure when I can take vacation time, though. It'll probably be this summer, and I'm taking off a week with my kids as soon as I'm eligible. I'll probably have to sit this one out...

Brick walls are there for a reason. They are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. The brick walls are there to stop people who don't want it badly enough.

--- Randy Pausch

lumpy God Just calling 'em like I see 'em Posts: 1,914	Slow... and Reality Mar 17, 2008 21:54:40 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by lumpy on Mar 17, 2008 21:54:40 GMT -5 Sorry, Shey. Didn't mean to threadjack.

sheyd God Posts: 1,437	Slow... and Reality Mar 18, 2008 8:13:08 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by sheyd on Mar 18, 2008 8:13:08 GMT -5 And THIS is why I love people. Thank you so very very much!!! Shey

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Slow... and Reality Mar 18, 2008 10:37:21 GMT -5

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Post by wizer on Mar 18, 2008 10:37:21 GMT -5

Mar 18, 2008 8:13:08 GMT -5 sheyd said:

And THIS is why I love people. Thank you so very very much!!!

Shey

Shey, you're a wonderful woman, really...but dontcha think you take this forum stuff a bit "too" seriously? Just say'en...

(I don't mean the really personal stuff..the crises people have and the support they are given-I am talking about the fighting and stuff)

The early bird gets the worm but the second mouse gets the cheese.

sheyd
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Slow... and Reality Mar 20, 2008 8:35:14 GMT -5

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Post by sheyd on Mar 20, 2008 8:35:14 GMT -5

Nope - cause the fightin' and stuff shows where people are AT. It shows where their stress is, how much self-control they have, etc. People being mean are usually people hitting at other people because they can't hit back hard enough at what gave them wounds. When I get touchy, I am at my lowest. Right before I get to my lowest, I am at my sweetest. People's attitudes here often show their real "place" at that moment. When I ask someone to be nicer, their comment back is often - "I'm sorry - I was having such a rough day - didn't mean it to come across that way." or "They hit me first, they deserve anything I give them back" - in other words, I hurt, so I will (accidentally or on purpose) hurt someone else. Plus - someone turning it around, or apologizing, or getting along with someone they didn't used to - that is the stuff that makes life worthwhile, and humanity have a hope. Nope - not too serious. If ONE person can change ONE little bit, it is worth it.

Shey