If we loved as we felt, then we would not love as we should. There are many, many times in relationships when we are required to love even when we feel no positive emotions towards the other person. That's why love must be selfless and detached from our emotions.
OK, but I think you're talking about the ideal of love, while I'm talking about the actuality of love. Don't get me wrong - I like your ideal, and wish more people would strive for it. But IMO most people experience love as an emotion and treat it accordingly.
And I do believe the responsibility that goes with love is kind of a separate entity. We are all responsible for our actions, regardless of their motivations. If love were to influence you to treat someone badly, that's not love's fault - it's yours. And the reverse is true, as well - if love influences you to treat someone like gold, you, not love, get to take credit for that.
All growth is a leap in the dark, a spontaneous unpremeditated act without the benefit of experience. -Henry Miller
Post by blazinheart on Jan 11, 2008 16:53:42 GMT -5
But IMO most people experience love as an emotion and treat it accordingly.
I don't think people can experience love as an emotion because love is not an emotion. They may think they're feeling love, but love isn't something you feel, it's something you know you have in you, regardless of feelings. But I digress.
If love were to influence you to treat someone badly, that's not love's fault - it's yours. And the reverse is true, as well - if love influences you to treat someone like gold, you, not love, get to take credit for that.
Totally disagree with this jimb, and i'm surprised to see you write it. If we treat someone badly, it's not love that influences us, it's jealousy, insecurity, hate, vindictiveness, spite, bitterness or some other flaw of human nature. But not love. Love allows us to rise above our human flaws and be, for another person, what they need us to be.
The stogie he brazenly lit where he sit looked legit, but when the flame touched on the tip I could smell it's of another knit. He leaned his head back and inhaled the newpie dip and said "The whole design got my mind cryin', if I'm lyin' I'm dyin'..shit"