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Post by Saucy on Jan 29, 2008 13:48:44 GMT -5
I know it may be hard to refuse because thy're daddy's girls. They're very fortunate to have a loving father like you. If you feel that they should decide when to stop sleeping with daddy, then so be it. You posting here and asking "what age is appropriate" is futile, if your just going to turn around and basically say i don't care what anybody thinks, its my life, my children.
so don't blast me for saying this but, 17?, maybe if she gotten her heart broken for being needy, and daddy needs to comfort her maybe then its okay to crawl up into bed with "daddy". but 17 and normal? wanting to crawl into bed with "daddy"? umm..i guess if you have no problm sharing a bed then by all means.
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Post by wizer on Jan 29, 2008 13:50:31 GMT -5
However, if my daughter came to me asking to crawl into my bed when she was 17 i would have a hard time refusing. She's my daughter, man. Sorry, but that's fucked up.
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Post by Saucy on Jan 29, 2008 13:51:41 GMT -5
However, if my daughter came to me asking to crawl into my bed when she was 17 i would have a hard time refusing. She's my daughter, man. Sorry, but that's fucked up. remember. children are creatures of habit.
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Post by finding on Jan 29, 2008 14:39:04 GMT -5
Before this happened the issue was getting the youngest out of his sister's room. He would go to sleep in his own bed and then sneak into her room in the middle of the night.
My room was across the hall from her's, but he choose to go in there because she wouldn't kick him out.
I am beginning to wonder if they will ever sleep in their own rooms again. It's either my room or the hide-a-bed in the living room anymore. I know they have been through a lot, but they seemed to have lost their independence they enjoyed before.
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Post by Dave on Jan 29, 2008 14:41:53 GMT -5
so i would be better off telling my heartbroken daughter that she should suck it up and crawl in her own bed IF she were to come to me? I don't expect to be having the girls in my bed much longer. My friend's twelve year old son sleeps on her floor while her five year old sleeps in bedwith her sometimes. is that okay with you?
I don't mean to discount your opinions, nor do i mean to dismiss them. I simply am choosing not to agree with them since i do not understand them.
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Post by goods on Jan 29, 2008 14:43:14 GMT -5
Where's the dog sleep?
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Post by Saucy on Jan 29, 2008 14:43:39 GMT -5
Before this happened the issue was getting the youngest out of his sister's room. He would go to sleep in his own bed and then sneak into her room in the middle of the night. My room was across the hall from her's, but he choose to go in there because she wouldn't kick him out. I am beginning to wonder if they will ever sleep in their own rooms again. It's either my room or the hide-a-bed in the living room anymore. I know they have been through a lot, but they seemed to have lost their independence they enjoyed before. I used to cry when i found my mother not there in her own bed. i was aged 6. when we finally got a bigger house, and our own rooms, she really emphasized that we sleep in our own rooms, and by aged 7, was completely happy to be doing that. plus, it gave me peice of mind that my room was MY space and my space only.
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Post by lumpy on Jan 29, 2008 14:46:43 GMT -5
The dog NEVER sleeps. It's starting to freak me out, man.
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Post by murdock on Jan 29, 2008 14:47:25 GMT -5
ok, my daughter is 12 and she is really cuddly. When my alarm goes off in the morning, she comes into my room, hits the snooze button and she climbs into my bed and we fall back asleep. We repeat the snooze like 2-3 times (we are NOT morning people). She is my CHILD. When she is 30, if she feels the need to climb in bed with me in the morning, she can. Hopefully, she will be living on her own by then.
I think that people with small children have a difficult time relating to this because they still see their children as babies. But, even when your children are teenagers, they are still your babies.
I ask everyone that opposes the thought of a teenage child climbing into bed... Does this mean you have to stop kissing and hugging your teenage child too???
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Post by Saucy on Jan 29, 2008 14:50:22 GMT -5
so i would be better off telling my heartbroken daughter that she should suck it up and crawl in her own bed IF she were to come to me? I don't expect to be having the girls in my bed much longer. My friend's twelve year old son sleeps on her floor while her five year old sleeps in bedwith her sometimes. is that okay with you? I don't mean to discount your opinions, nor do i mean to dismiss them. I simply am choosing not to agree with them since i do not understand them. Uh Erf? did you read my statement at all? I never said to be teling your heartbroken daughter to suck it up. i think your putting words into my mouth. and your choosing not to agree that your daughters sleeping with you at an adolescent age is appropopriate? really erf, is it you that's attached or them?
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Post by JC on Jan 29, 2008 14:50:44 GMT -5
ok, my daughter is 12 and she is really cuddly. When my alarm goes off in the morning, she comes into my room, hits the snooze button and she climbs into my bed and we fall back asleep. We repeat the snooze like 2-3 times (we are NOT morning people). She is my CHILD. When she is 30, if she feels the need to climb in bed with me in the morning, she can. Hopefully, she will be living on her own by then. I think that people with small children have a difficult time relating to this because they still see their children as babies. But, even when your children are teenagers, they are still your babies. I ask everyone that opposes the thought of a teenage child climbing into bed... Does this mean you have to stop kissing and hugging your teenage child too??? our routine in the morning is very similar, except my kids are 6, 2, and 1, and i go get them and put them in bed with the H while i get ready.. nobody is a morning person but me! on the weekends, we all snuggle in bed for an hour or so in the a.m.
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Post by goods on Jan 29, 2008 14:54:00 GMT -5
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Post by Saucy on Jan 29, 2008 14:55:47 GMT -5
ok, my daughter is 12 and she is really cuddly. When my alarm goes off in the morning, she comes into my room, hits the snooze button and she climbs into my bed and we fall back asleep. We repeat the snooze like 2-3 times (we are NOT morning people). She is my CHILD. When she is 30, if she feels the need to climb in bed with me in the morning, she can. Hopefully, she will be living on her own by then. I think that people with small children have a difficult time relating to this because they still see their children as babies. But, even when your children are teenagers, they are still your babies. I ask everyone that opposes the thought of a teenage child climbing into bed... Does this mean you have to stop kissing and hugging your teenage child too??? your children being affectionate to you and being needy is two different things. now, your daughter is climbing into your bed to hit snooze, not climbing into bed because she feels the need to sleep with mom. and showing love and affection, please don't stop showing your child that. i am not at all saying that showing them love and affection is BAD, but the topic at hand here is this: "at what age do you think my 8 and 10 year old should stop sleeping with daddy".
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Post by murdock on Jan 29, 2008 14:57:24 GMT -5
ok, my daughter is 12 and she is really cuddly. When my alarm goes off in the morning, she comes into my room, hits the snooze button and she climbs into my bed and we fall back asleep. We repeat the snooze like 2-3 times (we are NOT morning people). She is my CHILD. When she is 30, if she feels the need to climb in bed with me in the morning, she can. Hopefully, she will be living on her own by then. I think that people with small children have a difficult time relating to this because they still see their children as babies. But, even when your children are teenagers, they are still your babies. I ask everyone that opposes the thought of a teenage child climbing into bed... Does this mean you have to stop kissing and hugging your teenage child too??? our routine in the morning is very similar, except my kids are 6, 2, and 1, and i go get them and put them in bed with the H while i get ready.. nobody is a morning person but me! on the weekends, we all snuggle in bed for an hour or so in the a.m. Exactally!. On the weekends, I have an 8 year old and a 12 year old trying to jump into my bed with me and the hubby, and we are in a queen. They think it is funny because when they were really little, this was an every weekend morning occurrance. Althought, they get cuddled and kicked out pretty quick because we don't fit anymore!!!
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Post by goods on Jan 29, 2008 14:58:11 GMT -5
ok, my daughter is 12 and she is really cuddly. When my alarm goes off in the morning, she comes into my room, hits the snooze button and she climbs into my bed and we fall back asleep. We repeat the snooze like 2-3 times (we are NOT morning people). She is my CHILD. When she is 30, if she feels the need to climb in bed with me in the morning, she can. Hopefully, she will be living on her own by then. I think that people with small children have a difficult time relating to this because they still see their children as babies. But, even when your children are teenagers, they are still your babies. I ask everyone that opposes the thought of a teenage child climbing into bed... Does this mean you have to stop kissing and hugging your teenage child too??? our routine in the morning is very similar, except my kids are 6, 2, and 1, and i go get them and put them in bed with the H while i get ready.. nobody is a morning person but me! on the weekends, we all snuggle in bed for an hour or so in the a.m. I don't have a problem with kids jumping in bed in the morning and snuggling... that is completely different from an 8 and a 10 yr old daughter sharing the bed with their divorced father. Which now erf says a couple times a week... I missed that in the beginning and thought it was every night. That still doesn't change my view of kids should be in their own beds, except for the random thunderstorm.
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