Post by blazinheart on Jan 3, 2008 15:03:41 GMT -5
Well, this is a relationship forum, and this is one of the relationships i'm involved in right now, so here it is.
I've been conversing with A for about 3 months now via email and a little on the phone. She was introduced to me via email through a close friend of mine that has known her since grade school. We've been emailing and talking on the phone but have never met irl.
We hit it off immediately and, to be honest, I've never felt such compatibility with a woman in my entire life.
So, this is the last email I sent her because things have started to become difficult for me.
Please read the email, and comment if you wish.
"A, over the past week i've been trying to figure some things out, rationally, and this is what I come up with...
It's not a matter that i'm not interested in you anymore. It's a matter that i've been incredibly busy and when I have free time I don't know exactly what to say to you. In addition, i'm having difficulties logically justifying the effort required to maintain and develop a long distance relationship with someone i've never met in person.
Fact is, any sort of romantic link between us will never develop as long as our relationship continues to take place via email or phone. And that's fine with me, really. I do want to be friends. I do want to be someone in whom you confide and seek encouragment from. That much I do know. And I think it's possible to be friends in spite our current arraingement.
The tricky part about the romantic factor comes from not knowing if we will be physically attracted to one another. This is important, to me at least. Pictures can only tell so much, and they simply can't tell the whole story.
So I guess what it all boils down to is that I can't continue to grow a bond between us based upon any romantic expectations, not at this point. I've spent so much of my life investing myself and my heart into fruitless romantic endeavors, I won't continue to repeat this mistake.
So keeping it platonic seems to be the only option...for now. You leave for Africa soon and I want you to know that I will remain your friend.....
Yours,
D"
I've been conversing with A for about 3 months now via email and a little on the phone. She was introduced to me via email through a close friend of mine that has known her since grade school. We've been emailing and talking on the phone but have never met irl.
We hit it off immediately and, to be honest, I've never felt such compatibility with a woman in my entire life.
So, this is the last email I sent her because things have started to become difficult for me.
Please read the email, and comment if you wish.
"A, over the past week i've been trying to figure some things out, rationally, and this is what I come up with...
It's not a matter that i'm not interested in you anymore. It's a matter that i've been incredibly busy and when I have free time I don't know exactly what to say to you. In addition, i'm having difficulties logically justifying the effort required to maintain and develop a long distance relationship with someone i've never met in person.
Fact is, any sort of romantic link between us will never develop as long as our relationship continues to take place via email or phone. And that's fine with me, really. I do want to be friends. I do want to be someone in whom you confide and seek encouragment from. That much I do know. And I think it's possible to be friends in spite our current arraingement.
The tricky part about the romantic factor comes from not knowing if we will be physically attracted to one another. This is important, to me at least. Pictures can only tell so much, and they simply can't tell the whole story.
So I guess what it all boils down to is that I can't continue to grow a bond between us based upon any romantic expectations, not at this point. I've spent so much of my life investing myself and my heart into fruitless romantic endeavors, I won't continue to repeat this mistake.
So keeping it platonic seems to be the only option...for now. You leave for Africa soon and I want you to know that I will remain your friend.....
Yours,
D"