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Post by lumpy on Jan 3, 2008 20:17:58 GMT -5
What's her enotalone name? Just curious. Who? This girl is not on eatalone.com. My bad. I thought you met this one on that site.
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Post by blazinheart on Jan 3, 2008 20:40:57 GMT -5
Who? This girl is not on eatalone.com. My bad. I thought you met this one on that site. No. I lasted on eatalone.com for a whopping 4 days. I'm fast, but not that fast.
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Post by jules on Jan 3, 2008 22:05:29 GMT -5
blazin, I'm really sorry if any of my comments made you feel like I was trying to make you feel bad. I was honestly just trying to help you get some understanding of what her perspective may be.
Completely off-topic, mind if I ask where in Africa you travel? I'm looking into spending some time in either Morocco or Tanzania this June.
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Post by blazinheart on Jan 3, 2008 22:13:28 GMT -5
blazin, I'm really sorry if any of my comments made you feel like I was trying to make you feel bad. I was honestly just trying to help you get some understanding of what her perspective may be. Completely off-topic, mind if I ask where in Africa you travel? I'm looking into spending some time in either Morocco or Tanzania this June. For the most part I'm in eastern and southern Africa. But i've done a bit of travelling in northern Africa. Something you should know about Africa is that it's not the kind of place you want to travel by yourself, unless you're on a guided tour. If I had to point you to either Tanzania or Morocco, I'd say Tanzania. You've got amazing wildlife in the Serengeti and of course Kilimajaro which is breathtaking. Also, you can catch a short flight to Zanzibar which is a worth seeing. Maybe, on your way out of Africa, if you fly via Europe, you could do a stop over in Casablanca or something.
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Post by jules on Jan 3, 2008 22:21:15 GMT -5
Thanks. I do travel to South Africa annually for business and am thinking of tacking this onto that trip (so my company will pay for my transatlantic flights!) I'm looking at participating in a volunteer program, and sort of leaning toward either Rabat in Morocco or Bagamoyo in Tanzania. It all depends on which start dates coordinate best with my business trip, I guess, though Bagamoyo did appeal to me most. I like the idea of doing a stopover in Casablanca on the way home.
Thanks for the input.
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Post by blazinheart on Jan 3, 2008 22:23:07 GMT -5
I'm looking at participating in a volunteer program, and sort of leaning toward either Rabat in Morocco or Bagamoyo in Tanzania. What kind of volunteer program were you looking at?
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Post by jules on Jan 3, 2008 22:33:51 GMT -5
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Post by blazinheart on Jan 3, 2008 22:42:01 GMT -5
Wow. That's look really cool. Have you decided what you're going to be doing yet?
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Post by jules on Jan 3, 2008 22:53:38 GMT -5
I guess they sort of interview you, figure out what your strengths are, and what sort of experience you have, figure out where they need people, and place you accordingly where it appears you can do the most good. Which makes a lot of sense to me.
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Post by blazinheart on Jan 5, 2008 22:33:28 GMT -5
So I've been chattin' with 'A' on the phone. She's so rad. I think one of the reasons I like this current long distance arraingment is that things don't progress too fast. We have a chance to develop a real friendship before we decide on anything romantic, and I like that.
I like being able to take it slow, no pressure. It's exactly what I need. At the present, I simply can't handle a woman imposing herself on my life, and from Africa, 'A' simply can't do that. Therefore the risk of me freaking out because she's smothering me won't happen because she'll be half way around the world.
So, I can continue to become closer to 'A' and form a tighter bond with her and meanwhile I can sportfuck chicks at work just to satisfy my urges, then when summer rolls around I'll visit 'A' in africa.
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Post by Phyxius on Jan 5, 2008 22:48:01 GMT -5
So I've been chattin' with 'A' on the phone. She's so rad. I think one of the reasons I like this current long distance arraingment is that things don't progress too fast. We have a chance to develop a real friendship before we decide on anything romantic, and I like that. I like being able to take it slow, no pressure. It's exactly what I need. At the present, I simply can't handle a woman imposing herself on my life, and from Africa, 'A' simply can't do that. Therefore the risk of me freaking out because she's smothering me won't happen because she'll be half way around the world. So, I can continue to become closer to 'A' and form a tighter bond with her and meanwhile I can sportfuck chicks at work just to satisfy my urges, then when summer rolls around I'll visit 'A' in africa. Not a perfect solution, but possibly a workable one. Don't run away from her if she starts to figure you out. That's not a bad thing, blazin'. If she figures you out and doesn't run screaming that's a keeper. That wasn't a slap at you, blazin'. It's a two-way street...
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Post by blazinheart on Jan 5, 2008 22:54:35 GMT -5
If she figures you out and doesn't run screaming that's a keeper. No doubt.
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Post by blazinheart on Jan 5, 2008 23:13:12 GMT -5
Not a perfect solution, but possibly a workable one. Just out of curiousity phyx, what would be your idea of a perfect solution?
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Post by Phyxius on Jan 5, 2008 23:23:17 GMT -5
Not a perfect solution, but possibly a workable one. Just out of curiousity phyx, what would be your idea of a perfect solution? Just personal preference. I would't do the whole "hit it at work" thing, because I've never really been able to separate sex from love. But I'm not throwing stones. If you can seperate the two, more power to ya'...
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Post by ionysis on Jan 7, 2008 0:10:46 GMT -5
For what its worth Blazin I think that is a pretty good solution. I had that long distance thing going with someone I though had permenant potential but living 4,000 miles away with no plans to move imminently I just didn't think it was in any way possible to make a commitment. We spent ten months getting to know each other with no obligation on either party and it worked well. I got to have my wild free and single time and still managed to maintain contact with and get to know someone I thought could be right as a long term partner when I'd got that out of my system.
Now I'm headed back to London within six months (where he lives) and so we've decided to go exclusive and make the effort to travel and see each other once a month. It seems to be working OK so far - and all the better for us having been forced to take things very, very slowly. I don't think people who've been damaged emotionally often make the best decisions in relationships and being obliged to get to know someone without the whilwind "sex haze" part is hugely beneficial IMO.
Good luck with it.
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