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Post by goods on Jan 18, 2008 14:14:32 GMT -5
I don't think she should ignore the fact that he lied or is lying... That's why I said have a talk, tell him how uncomfortable she is with the situation, she already confronted him about the lie. Checking up on him is only treating the symptom, not the cause. AND fooling around with the symptom will never make things better. It is like have a nail stuck in your arm, I'll give enough drugs not to feel the pain, but that doesn't change the cause of the pain.
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Post by crystal025 on Jan 18, 2008 14:15:10 GMT -5
wait a sec... i dont know your whole story... this guy cheated on you and with you? He was going through a seperation when we met, he was not honest with his ex about me for fear she would take off with his daughter, which is exactly what she did when he left her. He hasn't seen his daughter in 8 months.
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Post by feel on Jan 18, 2008 14:15:47 GMT -5
I am confused, something must have happened... his attitude, his look, his touch... did something give you the feeling that he may be wanting out... ?
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Post by crystal025 on Jan 18, 2008 14:16:13 GMT -5
I don't think she should ignore the fact that he lied or is lying... That's why I said have a talk, tell him how uncomfortable she is with the situation, she already confronted him about the lie. Checking up on him is only treating the symptom, not the cause. AND fooling around with the symptom will never make things better. It is like have a nail stuck in your arm, I'll give enough drugs not to feel the pain, but that doesn't change the cause of the pain. Very good analogy. That's exactly what's going on here.
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Post by JC on Jan 18, 2008 14:16:16 GMT -5
but he hasnt cheated on you right?
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Post by crystal025 on Jan 18, 2008 14:18:15 GMT -5
I am confused, something must have happened... his attitude, his look, his touch... did something give you the feeling that he may be wanting out... ? Over the past few weeks we've jsut been getting more and more distant. The video games are a HUGE issue. Last night he said he realized that and it would change. He also takes me for granted now; doesn't thank me for doing his laundry, cooking him meals, doing his dishes, etc. He doesn't compliment me, or romance me, or show me much affection. I pointed all of this out. He said he would make it better. I don't know if he really can.
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Post by crystal025 on Jan 18, 2008 14:18:30 GMT -5
but he hasnt cheated on you right? Not that I'm aware of. We've been perfect the past 7 months, until the past few weeks.
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Post by freckles on Jan 18, 2008 14:20:00 GMT -5
You should meet that Woman
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Post by feel on Jan 18, 2008 14:21:46 GMT -5
how long have you been together, lived together...
obviously something is on his mind... you say he compliments you thanks you etc, well something is taking his interest away from you and from your picture I don't see why....
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Post by crystal025 on Jan 18, 2008 14:24:04 GMT -5
We've "officially" been together and living together for almost 8 months.
And thanks feel, thats the first nice thing I've heard in weeks.
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Post by freckles on Jan 18, 2008 14:24:24 GMT -5
He plays in a Band
All Bands have Drunk Women wanting Sex after them
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Post by crystal025 on Jan 18, 2008 14:24:49 GMT -5
You should meet that Woman That was my intention last night. But they she just "happen" to not come.
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Post by freckles on Jan 18, 2008 14:25:25 GMT -5
Beat Her Up
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Post by goods on Jan 18, 2008 14:26:40 GMT -5
He plays in a Band All Bands have Drunk Women wanting Sex after them I am starting a band.
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Post by freckles on Jan 18, 2008 14:31:01 GMT -5
I can Sing * Row Row Row your Boat, Gently down the Stream And * Hay diddle diddle the Cat and the Fiddle hee hee
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