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Post by wizer on Mar 11, 2008 21:55:56 GMT -5
IF you look at what I did to your picture you might hurl I did. NOW FIX IT!!!!! Maybe send it to the stalker dude
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Post by murdock on Mar 11, 2008 22:02:52 GMT -5
I'd tell him this...
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Post by rocko on Mar 13, 2008 9:47:36 GMT -5
Write down all the information you have on him and give it to a friend...just in case something happens...they will know to check him out.
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Post by wizer on Mar 13, 2008 10:54:11 GMT -5
Write down all the information you have on him and give it to a friend...just in case something happens...they will know to check him out. Yes, but in that case she would be dead. Would it really matter at that point?
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Post by rocko on Mar 13, 2008 11:29:28 GMT -5
Sometimes people take people hostage...not just kill them right away.
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Post by hoodieprincess on Mar 13, 2008 11:49:35 GMT -5
I have been in the position of having an actual stalker...More than once, sadly. It's never a fun position to be in and the feeling of vulnerability is the worst.
First, I am sorry you're dealing with someone acting like that.
Secondly, take proactive steps to guard yourself and that's all you can do right now to take your power back really. Give all of is info to a friend "just in case." It sounds a little nutty but you never know who people are and the demons they are hiding. Also, I would suggest blocking his e-mail. If you want to at least keep track of them, try to not read them, just ignore them. But, set up a folder that you can have an auto-rule move his e-mail into or manually do it yourself. If you get to the point you actually feel a bit threatened, send him a business-like and firm e-mail letting him know you want nothing else to do with him and if he doesn't leave you alone, you will consider taking what you have to the police. Most states won't uphold harassment unless you have documented that you advised them in a clear and understandable way to totally leave you alone. Also, make sure you are aware of your surroundings. If you ever feel like there is a vehicle sitting outside for a long period of time that shouldn't be there, you can just call the police to report a suspicious vehicle and inform them briefly of your situation and concern.
It is sad to be put in the position you are in. And, what's worse, it's hard to imagine the long-term damage something like this can do to the person with the stalker. If you need to talk or vent or anything at all, please let me know.
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Post by finding on Mar 13, 2008 11:57:41 GMT -5
My ex stalked me for years after we separated. It is an aweful feeling for sure.
I've documented things with a friend. If she hasn't heard from me in a while, she contacts me to make sure things are ok. I've given her all the information on him that I have in case something happens.
I haven't heard from this guy in several day. Hopefully it is a good thing. The last thing I said to him is that I will not be going out with him ever, that I am seeing someone else. I'm hoping he took the hint and isn't going to push things.
My mom is going to be here Friday night, so if something happens there will be another person here, and a truck in the driveway.
Hopefully I never hear from this creep again and that is the end of it, but with my luck it won't be.
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Post by wizer on Mar 13, 2008 12:04:14 GMT -5
Sometimes people take people hostage...not just kill them right away. True. I never thought of a potential hostage situation.
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Post by finding on Mar 13, 2008 12:07:32 GMT -5
Sometimes people take people hostage...not just kill them right away. True. I never thought of a potential hostage situation. My ex did that the last night I saw him. Honestly, if it hadn't been for my daughter, there is a strong possibility that none of us would have made it out alive.
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Post by rocko on Mar 13, 2008 13:17:36 GMT -5
you know you can put a thing on an email so you know when the person actually opens the email. Even though you aren't answering, he may know you are opening them. I dont' know what happens if you just delete them.
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Post by sheyd on Mar 13, 2008 14:17:00 GMT -5
I think that auto-shunting to another box works well - it won't show as opened then, and you have evidence...
Shey
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Post by finding on Mar 15, 2008 17:06:55 GMT -5
I thought I had gotten rid of him, but this morning I get this message:
hey thought that I would say hi and see how you are doing I am going to mi for about a week for vacation
I have not responded, nor do I plan on it. Why won't he just get the picture that I want nothing to do with him?
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Post by loshyra on Mar 15, 2008 17:22:48 GMT -5
sounds like a guy I dated once!
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Post by marcie on Mar 15, 2008 17:38:39 GMT -5
Men can be so dimwitted and stubborn when they get their minds and their paws on you. You must continue to ignore him and hope the message gets through his thick skull to his brain if he has one.
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Post by finding on Mar 16, 2008 19:35:51 GMT -5
He still hasn't gotten the picture. I told told one of my neighbors a couple of blocks away what has been going on, the first words out of their mouth was "You realize you are being watched don't you?"
I've got someone coming over to hang out tonight and help put me at ease and they have notified their brother who works at the county police department.
I was really hoping it wouldn't come down to this. I'm so sick to my stomach that I feel like I am going to vomit.
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