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Post by Saucy on Mar 12, 2008 17:54:38 GMT -5
i just picked my kid up from his new daycare because he bit a kid. I went there, stayed and watched him play for a bit, and then i witnessed him biting another kid. i feel so terrible. i want to puke cause i can't control my own toddler. i'll post more later.
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Post by gdgross on Mar 12, 2008 18:07:44 GMT -5
Yikes! I don't have kids, so I won't comment beyond saying I hope $ grows out of it fast!
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Post by Saucy on Mar 12, 2008 18:08:09 GMT -5
okay i'm back. kill.my.self. how do i curb this? i bit him back today, so now he knows it hurts to bite. (i know, not very good parenting) i guess he's not used to being with a bunch of little kids.
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Post by Saucy on Mar 12, 2008 18:09:31 GMT -5
i should open up an account for his bail money huh. my little thug.
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Post by finding on Mar 12, 2008 18:11:11 GMT -5
okay i'm back. kill.my.self. how do i curb this? i bit him back today, so now he knows it hurts to bite. (i know, not very good parenting) i guess he's not used to being with a bunch of little kids. That is what I had to do with my oldest boy. I tried every other option, but they didn't work. He had to understand that biting others hurt just as bad as being bitten.
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Post by Saucy on Mar 12, 2008 18:23:18 GMT -5
yeah, everytime i grab his arm and open my mouth (acting as if i'm going to bite) he pulls his arm away from me. and then i tell him "NO BITE"!
so that's a good sign (at least for me) that he understands that biting hurts.
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Post by jules on Mar 12, 2008 18:49:18 GMT -5
Oh Saucy, don't feel bad. Lots of kids go through the biting phase. And that's what being a toddler is all about -- testing boundaries.
Did the staff at the daycare have any suggestions? They're supposed to be the professionals.
For what it's worth, at my ex's daycare, while they would inform parents of biting incidents, they would not have the parent pick up the child after a biting incident because that's teaching the child "bite someone and you get to go home early with mommy or daddy." It's an inadvertant reward. What they would do was have a staff member "shadow" the child, so they could remind them just BEFORE they are getting ready to bite, "No", since with a child that young, consistancy is key. Reminding him that biting hurts and is not acceptable is good, but unless it is done at the time of the incident or attempted incident, it doesn't make a whole lot of sense to a child so young.
Good luck, Saucy!
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Post by freckles on Mar 12, 2008 18:52:41 GMT -5
My GrandMom would wash his mouth out with Soap
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Post by murdock on Mar 12, 2008 19:24:09 GMT -5
Since the slap across the face method should be saved for the teen-age years, if and when they really need a wake up call... I think that what you did was fine, as long as you do it every time he does it to you. Otherwise, it isn't going to stop. You let him do this for a while... so don't expect it to stop overnight.
Please don't think I beat my kids... I just have a hard time putting up with shit from people that don't pay rent or help with the bills.
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Post by goods on Mar 12, 2008 19:37:33 GMT -5
Saucy this is not a reflection on you as a mother at all. You said it, he is not used to being around a bunch of kids, he is learning how to be social. I think letting him know biting is not ok is fine, even giving him a little bite let's him know how it feels. Personally I would have (and did with my own) given him a swat on the butt.
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Post by murdock on Mar 12, 2008 19:39:31 GMT -5
Cash has alpha male issues.... even with Saucy. He bites her a lot... but it usually starts out as playing and she enjoys the play time so she doesn't want to ruin it by scolding him. He is so cute... but I can tell that he really hurts her. She has shown up at my house with bruises.
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Post by wizer on Mar 12, 2008 19:41:11 GMT -5
I had a beagle once, and he used to always run away when I tried to walk him without a leash. So I read up on these electronic shock collars. Worked like a charm.
I suggest you try it on your toddler. He goes to bite, ZAP him.
It won't need to be repeated.
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Post by lumpy on Mar 12, 2008 19:43:01 GMT -5
Cash has alpha male issues.... even with Saucy. He bites her a lot... but it usually starts out as playing and she enjoys the play time so she doesn't want to ruin it by scolding him. He is so cute... but I can tell that he really hurts her. She has shown up at my house with bruises. Sic the Dog Whisperer on his ass. www.youtube.com/watch?v=IIpxI5QGmcg
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Post by goods on Mar 12, 2008 19:43:10 GMT -5
Well I would say that a few spankings may be in order. I didn't hesitate to spank my son when he would knowingly be doing something wrong. All in all I don't think I spanked him more than 10 times in his life.... and now at age 16 he is a better kid than I deserve.
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Post by jules on Mar 12, 2008 19:46:27 GMT -5
Cash has alpha male issues.... even with Saucy. He bites her a lot... but it usually starts out as playing and she enjoys the play time so she doesn't want to ruin it by scolding him. He is so cute... but I can tell that he really hurts her. She has shown up at my house with bruises. If this is the case, Saucy, it explains somewhat where the behavior comes from (he thinks it's acceptable), but also gives you the perfect opportunity to correct it now. It'll only get more difficult to correct as he gets older (and his bites get harder.)
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