lies, nagging, and other hazardous activities

[Kim Possible]

finding said:

It's just an excuse on the man's part to block the real issue and put the blame back on the woman. I've seen it many times before, a woman asks a simple question and gets lambasted for nagging. It's easier to point a finger than admit there is a problem.

Very well put. While I do imagine that nagging can work both ways (that guys can nag too), it seems that, by and large, it's the woman's job. It seems that it is only nagging when the other person does not want to hear what the nagger is nagging about. If the nag-ee was open to talking about it, it would just be a conversation.

[Dave]

I used to nag the hell out of my ex-wife:

"when are you going to be home?"

and then I would call her and say, "it's two thirty in the morning. When are you coming home?"

and then when she finally did stumble in i would nag, "Where were you? Do you think that is normal for a married mother to do that?"

If only I wouldn't have nagged - we might still be together.

[sheyd]

Wow, blazin, your negativity is hitting an all-time low. I guess I am not at all surprised you would block any possibility of the "nagging" being legit - because of course you are perfect and anyone who might suggest otherwise simply doesn't "accept" you. You know what, on ojar, and probably on any other night, I might sit back and be all polite and sweet to you. FUCK THAT SHIT! Ok, here is the end, right now, of Mrs. Nice-gal for you. Ok? There are no newbies here to scare off, and you have made absolutely NO attempt to be POLITE, let alone civil.

So, here is the controlling feminist bitch for you. You can sit there and say no one better criticize you or "nag" or you would be gone. I'm sure that is because you must NEVER do anything that negatively affects your partner, or that she should have any reason to criticize you for. Of course, she should also be loyal to you and work on being what you want (like a good little obedient slave). Newsflash, 50's flashback, if you can't listen to your woman (whether you think her problems - stupid little ones like she mentioned, lack of jobs, etc - stupid things like that) if you don't take her seriously - she CAN and WILL leave you, eventually. If she doesn't she won't be anyone you respect, let alone love.

So, if a woman has to repeat things to you enough that she is a "nag" - it probably means you are being an insensitive idiot who just doesn't care enough to have a real mature working relationship. Now, if she IS listened to, if you DO respond, if you work something out instead of ignoring her and she STILL doesn't stop repeating things, she has learning to do, too. (Oh crap, but then you might have to accept her, right? Oh wait, no, only she has to accept YOU!) But then you should talk to her about that - and if she doesn't listen to you - god forbid, you might be a NAG. Either that, or you can just drift apart until you aren't together anymore and she leaves you. I guess maybe that is what you are looking for anyway - some proof that your negative ideas about women should be proved.

I am sick of your negative ass comments. I am sick of playing nice with you when you want to be a jerk. Tomorrow, I will probably apologize, or remove this, but I hope not. I have been sick of you blasting me continually while I just quietly try to be sweet to you. I offered friendship, probably still would, but you just want to take out your negative feelings of women on me. Go ahead, I can take it, probably even with a smile most days - but NOT today - so JUST LAY OFF!!!

Shey

[Kim Possible]

Wow, who are you, and what did you do with Shey???

[Kim Possible]

erf said:

I used to nag the hell out of my ex-wife:

"when are you going to be home?"

and then I would call her and say, "it's two thirty in the morning. When are you coming home?"

and then when she finally did stumble in i would nag, "Where were you? Do you think that is normal for a married mother to do that?"

If only I wouldn't have nagged - we might still be together.

You really think so? I doubt it.

[sheyd]

I am me, suffering a loss, I put my cat down tonight, and I don't want to put up with any mindless attacks. Especially since they seem to be repeating, even though I have NEVER attacked him. Tired of that shit. I don't deserve it, and I am tired of it.

Shey

[Dave]

erF hearts Shey.

[sheyd]

Thank you... I am sorry if I went off... I think niceness makes me cry even more... sorry.

Shey

[RO]

sheyd said:

I am me, suffering a loss, I put my cat down tonight, and I don't want to put up with any mindless attacks. Especially since they seem to be repeating, even though I have NEVER attacked him. Tired of that shit. I don't deserve it, and I am tired of it.

Shey

Shey, huge hugs to you. I know what that feels like...

Sorry, hun.

[lumpy]

mysterygirl said:

erf said:

I used to nag the hell out of my ex-wife:

"when are you going to be home?"

and then I would call her and say, "it's two thirty in the morning. When are you coming home?"

and then when she finally did stumble in i would nag, "Where were you? Do you think that is normal for a married mother to do that?"

If only I wouldn't have nagged - we might still be together.

You really think so? I doubt it.

I think your sarcasm detector needs servicing.

[kittenhart]

mysterygirl said:

erf said:

I used to nag the hell out of my ex-wife:

"when are you going to be home?"

and then I would call her and say, "it's two thirty in the morning. When are you coming home?"

and then when she finally did stumble in i would nag, "Where were you? Do you think that is normal for a married mother to do that?"

If only I wouldn't have nagged - we might still be together.

You really think so? I doubt it.

I think erf was being sarcastic to prove a point to Blazin' that it isn't the nagging that spells the demise of a relationship....it's the underlying problems that are never addressed (or apparently, even honestly considered as being legitimate)....and so eventually the partner that is never heard gets their fill and ends it.

And Shey, hun...I am sorry about your furbaby they really do become your family.

[finding]

Wow Shey.

Thank you for putting into words what I couldn't.

[kittenhart]

Shey, you shoot from the hip, girl.

[Kim Possible]

lumpy said:

mysterygirl said:

You really think so? I doubt it.

I think your sarcasm detector needs servicing.

Wow, i'm slipping in my old age

[blazinheart]

Hey, like I said, there are 2 kinds of women in this world, those that nag and those that don't. Nagging doesn't increase or decrease in a relationship according to the number of or signifigance of the issues a relationship faces. That's what you ladies aren't understanding. It's not about the issues, it's about the one who nags. Every relationship has issues, duh.

There is nagging in a relationship if the woman in the relationship is a nag. It doesn't matter what the issues are, she'll find something to nag about, she'll find some way to assume the superior position and start chipping away at the man. It's her little subconscious way of getting back at men for any number of reasons. Maybe her dad left or beat her mom, maybe her brother used to beat her up, maybe her first boyfriend used to hit her, maybe feminism taught her that men are dogs, who knows. But a woman doesn't nag because the relationship has problems, she nags because she's a controlling, insecure, arrogant person. And nagging is the only way she can assert herself.

Ultimately, what is all boils down to is this; women who nag men lack a basic respect for men. Somewhere, at some point in their lives they lost respect for men and henceforth they will treat men poorly.

And that's why I tell men to never get involved with a woman who nags, because once a nag always a nag. One way or another, they'll find a way to nag you til the day you die. And that's a piece of advice you can take to the bank. If want to live a life of misery and conflict, marry a nag.